Two quick points. The Dragonsfoot argument looks a lot more lukewarm when put in that context, if you judge Gary for that level of conflict, you'd have to put the same judgements on half the posters here.
My point is, half the posters here are not responding to friends and collaborators about conflicting mutual memories. If you treat the people who are ostensibly important to you like Joe Rando on the Internet, I would submit that they are not really important to you.
Secondly, I think the context of the insult is not Gary drudging up the memory to be petty but referencing the specific dragonsfoot conflict they just had the previous day. So looking from that specific perspective.
There is no context in which drudging up a 30 year insult is fair game.
In terms of the work ethic -- well, Rob Kuntz proved to miss a lot of deadlines and as others have reported elsewhere, he pretty much lost clout with other publishers because of lateness. So that's not coming out of nowhere.
Which, if it was a problem, should have been addressed
before Kuntz left the project (or even before he joined!), not hurled after him as he was leaving by someone who was supposed to be a friend, mentor, and one-time father figure. Hell, even someone who didn't have that kind of history would deserve a modicum of respect.
See, the problem is, you're treating this as if Gygax and Kuntz didn't have all this history, and deep personal connections. As if Kuntz was just some guy disagreeing on the Internet, and just some project member with tardiness issues. And what we are saying (if I may be so bold as to speak for others who have commented on this episode) is that treating someone you've known for 30+ years, whom you've mentored and at one point even considered
adopting, as just some guy on the Internet, and as just some unreliable writer, is a problem.
This was the point of the episode being mentioned in the podcast. Not that Gary Gygax, designer and writer, insulted Rob Kuntz, designer and writer. But that ultimately, after the success of D&D, Gary, the man, unfortunately drove away or burned bridges to the people who were closest to him before D&D was ever thought of.
But then again, a lot of you will believe what you want to believe... in the 16 years since his death I've seen him be transformed from a real person people interacted with to a figure who will get analyzed and criticized by folks who didn't even know him or who weren't even alive or in this hobby at the time.
This would have more force if this whole discussion had not been inspired by a podcast filled with nothing but the actual testimony of real people who knew Gygax, and his various flaws.
I have no doubt that Gygax had some wonderful qualities. The same people who pointed out all his flaws in the podcast also universally spoke highly of him. But for 40 years, all that we heard about Gygax were the wonderful qualities. Often at the expense of others, be that the minimizing of Arneson's contribution, or the demonizing of Lorraine Williams. It does not take away from Gygax to recalibrate our measures of him and those other people. Understanding that (by the accounts of people who were there!) Gygax could be petty, or selfish, or short-sighted does not erase his acts of kindness and generosity, let alone his essential genius as someone who could see what Arneson had done and turn it into something tangible that could be spread around the world.