From good to bad in less than 6 hours

[Mikecyclone]

So last night was one of the best I've had for some time. I spent the night with my honey.

A large thunderstorm ran through the area, however it was off quite a ways before entering the city where I live. As my gf had never been through a thunderstorm before we watched it from our front porch. 45 minutes of lightning with no rain, my honey snuggled close every time the thunder would crash. Soon after it started to rain, so we went inside to watch from indoors.

After while we were snuggling, falling asleep she used the L word for the first time, because she thought it was warranted. I was on cloud nine falling asleep last night.

This morning the plan was to get up early so that we could visit my mother in the hospital (another story). As this was to be the first time that my honey would get to talk for any period of time with my folks it was a big step in our relationship.

This morning something bad happened. An old boyfriend of hers whom she parted on friendly terms with showed up unexpectedly at her apartment this morning. No mention of a reason. After a 6 hour drive to get here.

She has since left with him to go back to her place to talk about whatever.

I don’t want to slander him in the public, but I don’t like what he has done. He has taken her away for who knows how long. I haven’t wanted to hit anything for several years, this has brought me close to putting a hole in the wall.

I'm not looking for advice here, just want to vent to those who may have been in similar situations.

 

[Angel Tarragon]

That bites the big one. If she meant that she loved you when she said you'll should hear from her soon. Give her the benefit of th doubt for at least 48 hours. You never know what can happen in a persons life.

 

[JoeBlank]

First of all, welcome to EN World.

I too enjoy watching thunderstorms, and used to get to do it more often with my wife. These days we have kids and are usually more concerned with keeping them from being scared. I try to stress how cool dramatic weather can be.

On the issue with your gf (of course, you didn't ask for advice, but . . .), probably a good idea to sit back and wait a little. Hopefully she is just letting the ex have his say, which means she is a decent person. If she has a decision to make, she has a great recent memory with you to keep in mind. Once you are able to talk to her, I would stress that you are not angry at her, but you are frustrated by the situation. Tell her how much she means to you, and that you understand her need to talk with the ex, but that you want her to understand your needs too.

Good luck!

 

[BiggusGeekus]

this has brought me close to putting a hole in the wall.

This once cost me $30 to repair (cheap door) and once put a small fracture in my hand (metal elevator door). Thankfully, I am now in a non-door punching relationship.

Stay frosty, bro. Good luck.

 

[JamesDJarvis]

She has since left with him to go back to her place to talk about whatever.

I've had vaguely similar things happen, blowed them off and shortly afterwards didn't have a girlfriend anymore. I was lucky.

 

[Hijinks]

Perhaps she's off telling him she's found someone new and she never wants to see him again?

If he drove 6 hours to see her, chances are she feels he deserves the right to explain himself, and hear her say she's over him.

Just for my own curiosity: how old is she that she's never seen a thunderstorm? That seems odd...

 

[Psionicist]

Can someone explain to an ignorant swede what the L-Word is? I always thought it was lesbian.

 

[BiggusGeekus]

Can someone explain to an ignorant swede what the L-Word is? I always thought it was lesbian.

... some people call it the "l-word" because it's a little scary to say early in the relationship.

 

[Rl'Halsinor]

I agree with the advice here to chill (which is most difficult to do especially when it deals with one's own heart/emotions) and let her explain herself. However, I do think it is important to let her know your confusion and misgivings about the whole matter. But above all else stick to the issues ! Tell her your feelings but don't let them dominate.

And what Hijinks asked: How old is she? And how is it she has never seen a thunderstorm before?

 

[Einan]

And what Hijinks asked: How old is she? And how is it she has never seen a thunderstorm before?

Hey! Be nice to the man and his vat-grown woman! Maybe she grew up in a convent after orcs slaughtered her family and the nuns kept her locked away in a basement with no windows? Maybe she's secretly a silver dragon polymorphed into human form and has had her memory erased? Maybe the flumphs stole her baby?

Einan