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[Djeta Thernadier]

Djeta, much as you think that you don't need sexual validation from the relationships you pursue, I think you might want to re-examine your behaviour. Look at the proportion of threads you have started on ENWorld designed to get people to compliment you on your appearance; look at the effort you have gone to, compared to other ENWorld users, to give us a chance to see how attractive you are and confirm that for you. These needs exist in humans; the diversity of their manifestations is incredible.

My FIRST desire when reading this was to get furious at you for putting thoughts in my head because I have never posted ANYTHING to ENworld or any other site for the reasons you are so strangely assuming I do.

So I would like you to tell me & the rest of the members of this board, WHY you assumed that was why I start threads and put my photo in the gallery. I happen to chat freuqntly with Arthur who runs the gallery and put pictures in the gallery that he, and my other friends, think are fun. I like to match faces with names and I don't think that is the same thing as looking for a mate.

So I want you EXPLAIN to me, with examples and deep psychological explanations, (because you MUST have them) why you think I have gone to great effort to get people to compliment me. I have a degree in psychology, so ... Go on... I'm curious as to what on earth would make you assume such things, because honestly, and I think those who know me will attest, thoughts of getting people on ENworld to compliment me have never crossed my mind. If anyone has complimented me, I've thanked them and moved on.

So go on. Explain yourself. This should be good.

Czhorat - Thank you.

 

[Mercule]

Why?

Thought I smelled the rapid decline into political territory.

Fortunately, I appear to have been wrong.

 

[mistergone]

Deleted for profanity. -Morrus

 

[alsih2o]

come on mistergone, you know better...

 

[Heretic Apostate]

So this thread isn't going to be killed because of politics or sex, as I thought.

It's going to be killed off because of a flame war between mistergone and jgbrowning... Over advice.

If you two don't like what the other is saying, put him on ignore. It's easy, unless they've changed that when they changed forum software. And no final plonk sounds, y'hear? That's just rude.

 

[jgbrowning]

Deleted for profanity. -Morrus

I know you really mean it. You don't like what i'm telling you. You're even responsible right now for your anger. Sucks, doesn't it. Guess what Mistergone, STOP BEING UNHAPPY. Sorry you don't want to hear that it's your fault, but it is, you and everyone here knows that. Just Stop. Being. Unhappy.

You're not qualified to tell anyone anything, so keep your mouth shut, or turn it towards someone who might be more receptive to what you have to say.

I'm happy. That's all the qualifications I need. I'm sorry I don't meet your qualifications, I'll try to be unhappy for you so you'll listen to what I have to say

Deleted for profanity. -Morrus

Sorry you feel that way. Right now, I'm still feeling happy (although a bit sickly). Who do you think has a better understanding? Ignore me if you wish, as well. You'll never be able to ignore yourself and what you're doing to your life, however.

You need to take a little bitty chill pill, mister. How old are you again? Next time you get on a public board and rant about how your life sucks while advising the rest of us to keep our advice to ourselves (hypocrasy alert! whoo whoo!), take a good long look in that deep dark mirror. You're the problem in your life, and until you fix it, the problem's going to keep making your life suck.

Just remember, I'm still happy. Don't listen to what I have to say, however. You're obviously in control of yourself.

joe b.

 

[jgbrowning]

So this thread isn't going to be killed because of politics or sex, as I thought.

It's going to be killed off because of a flame war between mistergone and jgbrowning... Over advice.

If you two don't like what the other is saying, put him on ignore. It's easy, unless they've changed that when they changed forum software. And no final plonk sounds, y'hear? That's just rude.

I'm far from flaming the guy. I just told him that he's in charge of his own destiny. That it is his decision to be happy or unhappy.

Obviously he doesn't like that. Probably because that means he has responsiblity for his unhappiness. People get touchy when you tell them that.

This thread will get closed down because he can't control himself. *shrug*

joe b.

 

[Crothian]

come on mistergone, you know better...

Perhaps he doesn't.

Does being alone suck? Sometimes it does, and sometimes it's great. Does being alone mean you aren't "getting any"? No, there are many people that are not in relationships that "get some". Each person is in charge of their own life, and if your current circumstances are not to your liking: Change them. If you can't change them, then you are not in control of your own life. Find out who is and take control from them.

 

[Buttercup]

Does being alone suck? Sometimes it does, and sometimes it's great. Does being alone mean you aren't "getting any"? No, there are many people that are not in relationships that "get some".

Moreover, anyone who gets into a relationship solely for this reason isn't going to have such a swell relationship. Because after you've "gotten some" you still have to look at the other person's hair in the sink, pay the bills and find something to talk about over dinner. If all you want is sex, there are plenty of places to get it that are much lower maintenance than a good relationship.

Each person is in charge of their own life, and if your current circumstances are not to your liking: Change them. If you can't change them, then you are not in control of your own life. Find out who is and take control from them.

Well said, Crothian. This lesson is hard for many of us to learn. I know I didn't learn it until I was around 29.

 

[alsih2o]

Perhaps he doesn't.

i meant he knew better than to let a debate come to that language and attitude on the boards