How Do you have an adult conversation?

[Umbran]

And it is rare.

As if you had statistics on that?

You don't see it often, personally? That's awesome. I don't see it at my table, because my table is made of friends I've had for a decade and more.

But, if someone's playing at their FLGS or something, I would expect the bag to be more thoroughly mixed.

 

[cranberry]

As if you had statistics on that?

You don't see it often, personally? That's awesome. I don't see it at my table, because my table is made of friends I've had for a decade and more.

But, if someone's playing at their FLGS or something, I would expect the bag to be more thoroughly mixed.

Well, if people are running into problem players frequently, it's possible that the players may not be the problem.

 

[Bill Zebub]

Well, if people are running into problem players frequently, it's possible that the players may not be the problem.

Alternately, if somebody thinks that problem players aren't a problem, maybe that's because they are the problem player.

 

[Umbran]

Well, if people are running into problem players frequently, it's possible that the players may not be the problem.

Really?

That's your reaction to folks not agreeing with you? Getting accusative?

Thanks. You've shown me all I need to know about this interaction. Have a good day.

 

[GrimCo]

I think that there are also other factors to consider.

First is, how good are you with problem player. It's easier to talk it straight up with no sugar coating if it's your friend than acquaintance or school/work colleague.

Other one is do you play irl or online. If it's online only and you are not very close to problem player, it's pretty easy. Straight up tell them what behavior is problematic and politely ask them to stop it. If they repeat, it's warning time, you again, politly ask to stop and warn them that you will not tolerate it further and should player continue, he/she will be banned from the game. Third strike, you are out. Revoke access (or block) from group. Don't be ahole about, send that final message and tell them they were kicked out due to ignoring polite requests and warnings.

 

[TheSword]

Problem player is a pretty broad range. There are several benign ways someone well intentioned could tip over into that category and there could be all sorts of reasons for it. Let’s not throw the baby out with the bath water.

 

[Nytmare]

I'm not sold this is actually a good suggestion; I've not infrequently found text a better way to do it, because its a cooler medium.

As should be readily apparent from your time spent on the internet, not every human being is able to properly intuit other people's intent when dealing with the written word.

People have a tendency to read their own assumptions as to what a person is really trying to say, and that's only exacerbated online where you miss out on contextual clues like seeing the other person's face and expression.