How do you work sex into your campaign?

[fusangite]

BVB says,

If the DM and players feel awkward about roleplaying a sex scene with each other because

and goes on the speculate that perhaps it's because people involved in the game are unattractive. No BVB, you're wrong. People should feel uncomfortable engaging in sexual roleplay with their friends infront of other people. This isn't some kind of modern post-Victorian uptightness thing -- this is how normal people should feel and have always felt.

Sex is private. D&D isn't. Simple as that.

 

[Teflon Billy]

Five guys hanging around chucking dice on a weekday night makes for zero romance and what in our gaming.

"Hey, is the *female NPC* pretty?"
"Sure."
"Cool, I try to get her in bed by the end of the night."
"... Done. Moving on, there's also a *30 second description of the cool character who walked into the story with some purpose in the DM's mind*."

Not saying it's the best way of doing things, but it's what is comfortable.

I have a new DM Mentor

 

[Teflon Billy]

...If the DM and players feel awkward about roleplaying a sex scene with each other because -- as more than one person has suggested here -- the participants at the table are out of shape and unattractive, then maybe they should be working to improve their appearances and social skills instead of licking the orange Cheeto powder from their fingers between dice rolls...

I don't think the relative attractiveness of the guys around the gaming table with me affects my desire to roleplay out sexual encounters with them, what with being straight and all.

I guess I likely need to state this again: Mostly my games are about anti-heroic adventure/axe-swinging action.

Not pretending to make out with my "Hot as Georgia Asphalt" male friends by RPG Proxy.

 

[shadow]

Yeah! My campaigns feature tons of SEX! We role-play all our sexual encounters out in detail. We have rules for sexuality, bestiality, and masturbation all of which we use quite frequently. We're waiting for The Book of Erotic Fantasy so that we can take our games to the next level in terms of adding EVEN MORE SEX.

(A note for the sarcastic impared, I was just joking!)

Seriously though, sex isn't really mentioned much in the games that I play in. I suppose that we're all to busy with hack n' slash, or complex plots to worry whether or not our characters will "score".
The most sex that I've seen was in Fuzion, secret agent type game, in which one of the players played a Bond-like secret agent who was the "lady's man". Of course all his encounters would always fade to black without any details mentioned.
I really can't see how sex could be handled maturely with the groups I usually play with- a bunch of sex starved gaming geeks who can't seem to get a girlfriend, much less lose their virginity.

 

[the Jester]

There's rarely a need to get explicit in my game, but it does become necessary on rare occasions (like when an evil pc used sex to trick and kill an npc wizard for his spellbook).

Also, one of the characters imc is a total slut and has two human kids and a half-dragon lovechild to boot. The player of this pc (Sybele) is always saying things like, "I'm gonna go take Thrush [the npc fighter she's hooked up with now] into the bushes and give him a shag"... he's explicit but not offensive.

My game, however, has a definite 'vile' tone. (I'd never thought about it that way until a thread here around the BoVD controversary made it apparent.) I have a class who's main power is achieved through cannibalism, fer god's sake! So I don't know how representative my game is of gamers at large. If your average campaign is rated PG-13, mine is a heavy R that a less liberal mind would call NC-17.

 

[S'mon]

Falling in love is a disempowering experience

Poor Fusangite...

 

[Farland]

I generally don't.

 

[fusangite]

S'mon responds to my statement

Falling in love is a disempowering experience

Poor Fusangite...

Of course it's disempowering. That's why it's called "falling" -- the sense of being swept along with an involunary momentum is what makes it so special. It's also exhilarating, fun, euphoric, etc.

"Fall for you," "falling in love," these expressions are not coincidental; they are descriptive. There is a sense of overwhelming momentum that seems almost to come from outside the self when one falls in love.

Unlike many feminist thinkers, I do not place a value judgement on empowerment or disempowerment -- experiences of disempowerment can be just as fulfilling/unfulfilling as experiences of empowerment.

Going on a roller coaster at an amusement park is something one does when one wants to experience disempowerment recreationally; playing D&D is something one does when one wants to experience empowerment recreationally.

 

[Brother Shatterstone]

"You have a wonderful time and learn many new things. You earn five experience points, and fall asleep."

*LMAO* been a long time since I've read that...


Their has been at least one war in the history of man that pretty much boils down to sex and we have all seen in a movie or read in a book where the major character was trying to prove himself to his love intrest. So I don't think any campaign should go with out some mention of sex as it is human nature, but at the same time, I'm not saying it should be anything more than the "fade to black".

At the same time I think the repercussions should be roleplayed as not everything in campaign should be either treasure or killed. Thats to diabloish for me. (nothing wrong with Diablo btw.)

 

[Gez]

Hint : If you personally use this level of imagry in fight scenes, you personally may have a problem. If you are trying to ascribe this level of bloodthirsty grossness to everyone who runs a non pornographic campaign, you have a larger one...

Nah, I was poking fun at a tendancy to find violence acceptable for all publics, but sex icky, sinful, and disgusting.