Poor people!
I'm generaly open...I tell people about it who ask, and if you know me well enough, you probably know I do it. I don't hide it...but I'm not exactly going up to chicks in the bar saying "Hey, baby, you're a 10 HD woman!"
I consider myself a fairly moderate geek. I don't read comics, I don't use minis, I don't own T-shirts with my gamerhood on them....
But I do carry my books around a lot, and I'm not afraid to smile and tell people that I play D&D, if it comes up. I have them on a shelf, and I'll gladly show them to any interested parties.
I have introduced a whole mess o' people to D&D in just a few years since 3e came out. My then-girlfriend, her roommate, the half-japanese girl accross the hall, a girl down the hall from me...heck, because I played with so many chicks, most of their guy-friends found out and at least showed up to watch the story, if not play in it.
And I do think the girls are more open than the guys. They know that they can get people to satisfy their romantic needs even if they *do* game....'cuz there's a lot of guys and most of them are rather pathetic.

Guys, meanwhile, note that most women (though not all of them) won't touch 'em with a 9 1/2-ft. pole if they found out they were "D&D Nerds." It's associated with a negative stereotype that most people don't want to be cast in (at least, not right away)....and stereotypes are prevalent, even if they're usually not true. Say you're a gamer, and there's a whole mess of things associated with that image...which may or may not be true.
I'm a nerd. But there's no reason to limit my gettin'-it-on possibilities advertising that.
