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[Holy Bovine]

In what way does he "punish" you? And, in the same vein, how old are you?

Regardless of his illness, this is not a situation you should be in. It sounds like another adult needs to be present if the illness is causing abusive symptoms. What does your mother say when he punishes you for what happens in a game?

To be honest, this doesn't sound like a gaming issue to me; it sounds much more serious than that. Do you have a teacher or someone you can talk to, if not your mother? Another adult family member?

Pretty much what I was going to post. One other question - do you have any friends your own age that might be interested in D&D? Have you asked them?

 

[Zhaleskra]

It's not normal power gaming, if he doesn't get his way (by breaking rules) he either yells at me or simply punishes me.

And no, he isn't immature, he has Multiple Sclerosis so his moods are effected.

I believe there's a statute of limitations on "I have disease/disorder X, I get out of trouble free" that says "this card, and all like it, are not valid after you turn 18".

Not immature? He punishes you. For not getting his way. In a game of "let's pretend".

 

[Pilgrim]

While it might not be the optimal thing to do, you could simply stop playing (at least as long as you can stand it) and take the time to focus your enjoyment of the hobby into another area, such as campaign design.

Just tell your Dad that you want a break for a while, in the mean time work on your own campaign, design adventures you'd like to run, maybe read through some new or different systems; take time to let some of the stress of the situation drain away.

I'm doing something similar right now. This semester of school has me swamped with to much to do, to make time for any gaming. I just let my two groups know that I probably won't have time to play until December, which is killing me, but I'm using the time to read new material and work on new venues so that when the time comes, I'll be ready to run and play.

Not perfect, but it's better than nothing.

 

[nedjer]

In what way does he "punish" you? And, in the same vein, how old are you?

Regardless of his illness, this is not a situation you should be in. It sounds like another adult needs to be present if the illness is causing abusive symptoms. What does your mother say when he punishes you for what happens in a game?

To be honest, this doesn't sound like a gaming issue to me; it sounds much more serious than that. Do you have a teacher or someone you can talk to, if not your mother? Another adult family member?

Morrus has focused on the questions that seem to need answers. Maybe not here, but somewhere - and soon

 

[Oryan77]

Is this thread for real? If so, I apologize for the accusation, but this just totally seems like a bogus story to me. It sounds like a story created just to get a reaction and see what people will say.

Your dad punishes you for game related issues?

Your dad is the one throwing temper tantrums?

You actually want to bail on your dad because he is the problem player?

If I wanted to make my story more believable, I'd say he has an illness.

He is the one that introduced you to D&D yet he is the one causing these sort of problems?

Usually, the person bringing the players into D&D for the first time is the one that influences the new player to have similar habits and play styles. Not always of course, but I'd think a father would be the one to influence the child more than anyone else. Yet, it seems like you have a completely different approach to the game.

It doesn't sound like a father to me; especially one that brings his kids into the game. It just sounds like some random problem player, a friend or a stranger. If this is a true story, it's very strange. I don't know what I'd do if that was my dad.

 

[Traveon Wyvernspur]

[MENTION=18701]Oryan77[/MENTION] I feel it's not very nice to call the OP a liar, when he's just trying to get advice. We don't know the situation other than what he has posted so we just have to take this at face value unless you can prove otherwise. As far as what I'd do, I agree with the others who say to go ahead and stop playing with him if he does indeed punish you for in-game related stuff, that just isn't cool. Get a new group together either with friends or people you can meet at the FLGS or online using a virtual table top. I'd be polite and respectful about how you stop gaming with him in any circumstance because of his apparent temper tantrums to punish you. I liked the reason above saying that you don't want to play without your brother, perhaps that might be the best way to go where you aren't "accusing" him of something where he would then turn the tables on you and punish you for it.

This is a game everyone is supposed to have fun at and if you aren't having fun playing with him, you need to find a new group that doesn't involve him and that suits your playing style more. If you don't do this, I feel like you'll become jaded with gaming and stop playing at all, which would be unfortunate since it seems you really like to play.

 

[nedjer]

Is this thread for real? If so, I apologize for the accusation, but this just totally seems like a bogus story to me. It sounds like a story created just to get a reaction and see what people will say.

Your dad punishes you for game related issues?

Your dad is the one throwing temper tantrums?

You actually want to bail on your dad because he is the problem player?

If I wanted to make my story more believable, I'd say he has an illness.

He is the one that introduced you to D&D yet he is the one causing these sort of problems?

Usually, the person bringing the players into D&D for the first time is the one that influences the new player to have similar habits and play styles. Not always of course, but I'd think a father would be the one to influence the child more than anyone else. Yet, it seems like you have a completely different approach to the game.

It doesn't sound like a father to me; especially one that brings his kids into the game. It just sounds like some random problem player, a friend or a stranger. If this is a true story, it's very strange. I don't know what I'd do if that was my dad.

It's the Net so we can't be sure. However, carer relationships can take the shape/ pattern outlined.

A context where appropriate boundaries easily break down is also credible.

 

[Oryan77]

[MENTION=18701]Oryan77[/MENTION] I feel it's not very nice to call the OP a liar, when he's just trying to get advice.

I didn't call him a liar. I questioned his honesty. There's nothing wrong with that when the story is hard to imagine and I don't want to get sucked in. It wouldn't be the first time someone has posted a completely made up story on Enworld to get sympathy from the community and to see what happens.

A father punishing a kid because he's upset about what happened while he played D&D is pretty serious. This isn't just some problem player being annoying, this is his dad. The way the OP is telling this story throws up all kinds of red flags to me. I could be wrong, but there is no harm in questioning the honesty with this particular story.

 

[Traveon Wyvernspur]

I didn't call him a liar. I questioned his honesty. There's nothing wrong with that when the story is hard to imagine and I don't want to get sucked in. It wouldn't be the first time someone has posted a completely made up story on Enworld to get sympathy from the community and to see what happens.

A father punishing a kid because he's upset about what happened while he played D&D is pretty serious. This isn't just some problem player being annoying, this is his dad. The way the OP is telling this story throws up all kinds of red flags to me. I could be wrong, but there is no harm in questioning the honesty with this particular story.

I apologize if I misunderstood your intention. It is true that there are a lot of trolls around that like to post stuff just to stir the crap, so I can see you wanting clarification like the rest of us.

I agree that if a father punishes a kid for D&D in-game stuff, that's a bunch of BS and the OP should just leave the game with as little tension as possible so it doesn't backfire on him and get him punished IRL.

 

[Janx]

I apologize if I misunderstood your intention. It is true that there are a lot of trolls around that like to post stuff just to stir the crap, so I can see you wanting clarification like the rest of us.

I agree that if a father punishes a kid for D&D in-game stuff, that's a bunch of BS and the OP should just leave the game with as little tension as possible so it doesn't backfire on him and get him punished IRL.

Well, not just trolls, but Enworld had a specific person who ran multiple sock puppets with accounts mimicing other user's names. And then that person made a fake girlfriend acccount to announce that the well known person was in a coma.

It's totally OK to take the OP at face value and just answer the question. There are times, when the probability meter reads high, that somebody needs to politely ask if this is really going on.

Take Morrus's questions. Teachers and a number of public employee professionals are bound by law to report child abuse.

So when the OP seems to imply he's a kid and he's being "punished" for what happens in a game, some EN world members are lijkely legally obligated to enquire further and possibly report it to Child Protective Services as dictated by their jurisdiction.

Now the OP could simply be saying he has to do an extra chore or some such that really isn't a big deal.

Or it could be a much more serious matter.

or it could be total tear jerker to yank our chains.

Hopefully the OP isn't yanking our chains, and if he is, he'll come clean or dial down the melodrama on this, lest he get eterna-banned.

If the matter is serious, somebody on here is likely in the same state and probably has good advice and the family can get the proper help it needs outside the gaming table.

If the OP's dad is just a dick, life's too short to game with jerks.