I... actually met a girl!

[Aurora]

Aaron not trying to steal thread just answering question. I've had a feeling that something has been wrong for the past few motnhs. We are having a few issues at the moment, which are being worked on but I think that something had happened between her and her best friend. Just from observing the way she acts and talks to her on phone. So I decided to look at her text messages (normally would never do as I'm not a nosey person) and found a few that implied that something had happened. Haven't said anything to her yet, as I love the hell out of her, and I want to be sure I'm not observing something that is just a private conversation about "girl stuff" or a humorus jest via text message.

But still what I saw doesn't seem to funny to me. Either way though I'll manage to try and make it work...And if it don't we still have a strong friendship for one another, and I still have my children

Oh wow. This really sucks. Hopefully, it is nothing. I know you didn't ask for advice, so forgive me, if you don't want it. Seems like maybe it is time to talk to her. I wouldnt mention your reading her text messages or anything. I would just ask her what's going on, she's been acting wierd, and reassure her that you love her and whatever it is you can deal with it together. Breakdown in communication is a bad thing in a marriage. Good luck man. It could be nothing more than "girl stuff". My marriage has twice hit rocky spots where I know I freaked out my husband with "acting wierd", and we are still together.

 

[Aeson]

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Care to elaborate? I imagine that would come as a big shock.

I know a lady that lived down the road from my house that left her husband and children to live with another woman. Her lesbian lover also left her husband and children. The two husbands ended up moving in together (for financial reasons, not because they were gay). Very strange situation.

Olaf the Stout

I see a sitcom here.

I may start the pilot script soon.

 

[chakken98]

Oh wow. This really sucks. Hopefully, it is nothing. I know you didn't ask for advice, so forgive me, if you don't want it.

Its not a problem Aurora, advice is normally a good thing. And I intend to speak to her once the water is a little more calm, as I don't want anything to get blown out of prorportions. That and the kids need to be with Grandparents or something just in case. That and it could just be nothing..*fingers crossed*..guess we'll see.. :\

 

[fett527]

Oh wow. This really sucks....

Huh, my first thought was "threesome, here I come!"

 

[chakken98]

Huh, my first thought was "threesome, here I come!"

Yeah, but I don't like to share......I'm Greedy

 

[grimwell]

Think of it this way, the worst case scenario is that your wife is a lesbian. She's not going to die of it so count your lucky stars. Best case is that she's straight and things just seem weird. Middle ground is that she's bi-sexual or in a 'curious phase' where she wants to explore things. It's still not terminal cancer no matter the case, so you can be thankful.

I don't have any real advice -- I think you are on the right path (find the right moment, make sure the kids are sheltered from any yelling by being at Grandma's, etc.). I lied, I do have advice. Just remember that no matter what her sexuality is.. you didn't make her that way or change her by being a bad husband. It is what it is, and there isn't any blame to be laid for whatever potential outcome there is.

 

[chakken98]

I lied, I do have advice. Just remember that no matter what her sexuality is.. you didn't make her that way or change her by being a bad husband. It is what it is, and there isn't any blame to be laid for whatever potential outcome there is.

Thanks, I appricate the advice.

And also Thanks to the rest of you that have given me encouraging words. Don't have many friends now a days, so its nice to be able to communicate with other people.

 

[Aurora]

Huh, my first thought was "threesome, here I come!"

Somehow, I am not surprised

 

[Aeson]

Huh, my first thought was "threesome, here I come!"

Isn't this most guys first thought? Second thought..."Where's my video camera?"

 

[chakken98]

Isn't this most guys first thought? Second thought..."Where's my video camera?"

Not really in my case. If you look at it as this; you+your girl+her best friend=very much drama between all parties. And trust me its no fun to be in that situation. But to each his or her own