I can't find a game group!
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Love truly is strange.
blargney the second
blargney the minute's son
Reminds me of something one of my dad's buddies said recently: "I'm like the bull's penis. I just go where I'm shoved."Asmor said:
-blarg
wedgeski
Adventurer
Analyzing the d_k's marriage based on what he posted is ludicrous and bordering on inappropriate, IMO. Anyways... I'm just starting out in FG2 myself, and I have to say it's extremely impressive. A 5-minute demo has already got all of the members of my mostly technology-averse Dragonlance group agreeing to buy a player's license and give an online campaign a go. It's well supported, has a moderately large and friendly community, looks great, and is easy to use. Like everything I can see areas I would have done things differently, but that's life. We should be starting in a week or two, after I sort out some technicals myself.
dmccoy1693
Adventurer
QFTblargney the second said:Reminds me of something one of my dad's buddies said recently: "I'm like the bull's penis. I just go where I'm shoved."
-blarg
Midknightsun
Explorer
I can remember at least one other player who desperately wanted to play in my group (any group, actually), but his wife felt it would take away from the family. She sat in on one game . . . he never came back, with her stating that they "have kids" and it wouldn't work. I'm not sure if it was a judgement on my DMing or not 
Strangely, I have three other payers who are married, have kids, and manage to come to games pretty regularly (barring vacations and such), so go figure. Sometimes even bringing their kids along (the ones that ones are well behaved) However, I feel for you on the "she laid down the law" front. Been there. Done that. I didn't particularly like that aspect of marriage, but I digress.
However, I think any reasonable couple should be willing to compromise and let each other have their one night out, so to speak, to recharge. YMMV.
Good luck to you, though, I hope you can find a group (and the blessings of your wife) to do so.
Strangely, I have three other payers who are married, have kids, and manage to come to games pretty regularly (barring vacations and such), so go figure. Sometimes even bringing their kids along (the ones that ones are well behaved) However, I feel for you on the "she laid down the law" front. Been there. Done that. I didn't particularly like that aspect of marriage, but I digress.
However, I think any reasonable couple should be willing to compromise and let each other have their one night out, so to speak, to recharge. YMMV.
Good luck to you, though, I hope you can find a group (and the blessings of your wife) to do so.
Digital M@
Explorer
What about Sunday nights? Since people are not all tired and hungry and carrying their work baggage with them, lots of people enjoy Sunday night gaming. I don't like to game on Friday or Saturday because of family time, chores, and too many things pop up for both players and DMs which hurt the schedule.
You shoud be able to convinve your wife that Sunday night is a good compromise unless there is another reason it will not work.
I should not be giving advice, I can't find a group either. I have found three players thru our local meetup group, but mine is a quite active meetup group.
You shoud be able to convinve your wife that Sunday night is a good compromise unless there is another reason it will not work.
I should not be giving advice, I can't find a group either. I have found three players thru our local meetup group, but mine is a quite active meetup group.
bento
Explorer
Backing up DK on this, the stress comes from balancing free time between family and personal needs.
I choose not to game on the weekends because it takes too much time away from my wife and kids. My wife is with the kids all through out the week, so the last thing I want to do is schedule my days off to be away from them. When I tried to get into groups that meet on Saturday or Sunday, it causes marital stress. Every other friday night has become my night out and I support my wife with her own outside activities. So it all works out for us.
I think DK was joking a little about laying down the law, but I too have felt his frustration, that time and effort has been invested into a hobby, and no viable outlet has come along that meets our time constraints. Our SOs need us around, but we also want to feed this need to game. I believe RPGing has lost a lot of older players due to scheduling problems and is one reason I think DI and VT will help the hobby. It's not a perfect solution, but it gives an outlet to continue gaming.
I choose not to game on the weekends because it takes too much time away from my wife and kids. My wife is with the kids all through out the week, so the last thing I want to do is schedule my days off to be away from them. When I tried to get into groups that meet on Saturday or Sunday, it causes marital stress. Every other friday night has become my night out and I support my wife with her own outside activities. So it all works out for us.
I think DK was joking a little about laying down the law, but I too have felt his frustration, that time and effort has been invested into a hobby, and no viable outlet has come along that meets our time constraints. Our SOs need us around, but we also want to feed this need to game. I believe RPGing has lost a lot of older players due to scheduling problems and is one reason I think DI and VT will help the hobby. It's not a perfect solution, but it gives an outlet to continue gaming.
The wife/kids thing is what got me using Fantasy Grounds. It wasn't a law laid down by the wife... it was my way of trying to fit both things in at the same time. It really does work better for me (mostly. Trying to dm while being in a living room with 3 kids can by trying). Getting done with a game and already being home is fantasic (vs an hours trip and then staying up for a few hours after getting home).
We also play during the week so that my weekends stay open and Thursday nights are our night of choice. Sometimes Fridays are a bit rough after 3-4 hours of sleep but, for some reason, I always fell really well after a good night of gaming!
If you are intersted in FG try the demo first. As of right now the demo is still FG1 while the game is FG2 but if you like the demo FG2 only gets better.
Good luck!
rv
We also play during the week so that my weekends stay open and Thursday nights are our night of choice. Sometimes Fridays are a bit rough after 3-4 hours of sleep but, for some reason, I always fell really well after a good night of gaming!
If you are intersted in FG try the demo first. As of right now the demo is still FG1 while the game is FG2 but if you like the demo FG2 only gets better.
Good luck!
rv
der_kluge
Adventurer
Like Bento said - this thread isn't about my relationship between me and my wife - it's about difficulty in scheduling a game, and finding gamers. Suffice it to say, my wife and I love each other dearly, and while she's perfectly happy for me if I manage to game every week - she just asks that it be at my house. I'm trying to honor her wishes.
Besides, killing her and taking her stuff would be stupid. I'd have to raise the kids by myself, and all her stuff is already my stuff anyway.
Now back to the topic at hand - I downloaded OpenRPG, and despite having a Master's degree in Computer Science, I couldn't figure it out. I tried loading a map, but it only reads XML files? What's up with that?
I'm going to try downloading some other programs - FG2 and maybe maptools and Klooge.werks (I'm drawn to this last one though I can't imagine why...)
I may end up even running a PbP, too. I don't know.
My wife's suggestion was to run two VT games - one for my friends, and another for the Tulsa people. Her theory was that maybe they would like me as a GM and be more willing to game with me after that. Though, knowing my luck, probably none of them would be interested anyway, especially if I go with a purchased product - I doubt any of them would be willing to go buy it.
Besides, killing her and taking her stuff would be stupid. I'd have to raise the kids by myself, and all her stuff is already my stuff anyway.
Now back to the topic at hand - I downloaded OpenRPG, and despite having a Master's degree in Computer Science, I couldn't figure it out. I tried loading a map, but it only reads XML files? What's up with that?
I'm going to try downloading some other programs - FG2 and maybe maptools and Klooge.werks (I'm drawn to this last one though I can't imagine why...)
I may end up even running a PbP, too. I don't know.
My wife's suggestion was to run two VT games - one for my friends, and another for the Tulsa people. Her theory was that maybe they would like me as a GM and be more willing to game with me after that. Though, knowing my luck, probably none of them would be interested anyway, especially if I go with a purchased product - I doubt any of them would be willing to go buy it.
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