I can't find a game group!

[Greylock]

Tulsa is a cliquish town. I moved here in March and haven't managed to find a group yet. I'm active in the Meetup, but it seems like there are more GMs than there are players. It also doesn't help that one of the co-moderators is disabled, and runs like 4 games a week.

A couple of friends of mine moved to Tulsa in May. I know that they used to play D&D a long time ago, and are still involved in Ren Fair type things. Next time I talk to them, I'll mention this and see if they are interested in meeting. Good folks.

Your last sentence above, though, confuddilates me.

 

[der_kluge]

A couple of friends of mine moved to Tulsa in May. I know that they used to play D&D a long time ago, and are still involved in Ren Fair type things. Next time I talk to them, I'll mention this and see if they are interested in meeting. Good folks.

Your last sentence above, though, confuddilates me.

Just that there seems to be a lot of game groups which aren't active in the community (i.e., hard to find) and the few players that I can find are already locked into pre-existing campaigns.

 

[Aeolius]

However, I think any reasonable couple should be willing to compromise and let each other have their one night out, so to speak, to recharge.

That doesn't sound reasonable, it sounds selfish. Any couple with kids should be spending precious nights out together. Mind you, as my 13-year old son (and soon 13-year old daughter, once we return to China next month) uses a wheelchair and the other kids are 9, 6, 4, and 3, it would take an army of trained sitters to watch my crew. We might average 1-2 nights out without kids every 1-2 years.

I tried joining one of those meet-ups, as well, to see if I could organize a game. Oddly enough, no one wanted to try an undersea adventure; they all wanted standard dungeon crawls. I don't remember how to DM one of those.

I'm running my new game via IRC but have considered klooge.werks as well.I might revive my PbP as a mid-level game one of these days, as well. If the D&DI supported Macs from day one, I'd give that a shot; though none of the virtual tabletop apps support adventuring in three dimensions, to my knowledge.

 

[Patryn of Elvenshae]

Besides, killing her and taking her stuff would be stupid. I'd have to raise the kids by myself, and all her stuff is already my stuff anyway.

That's funny; I always that that all of your stuff turned into her stuff when you got married. I may need to reexamine my contract ...

 

[der_kluge]

That doesn't sound reasonable, it sounds selfish. Any couple with kids should be spending precious nights out together. Mind you, as my 13-year old son (and soon 13-year old daughter, once we return to China next month) uses a wheelchair and the other kids are 9, 6, 4, and 3, it would take an army of trained sitters to watch my crew. We might average 1-2 nights out without kids every 1-2 years.

I tried joining one of those meet-ups, as well, to see if I could organize a game. Oddly enough, no one wanted to try an undersea adventure; they all wanted standard dungeon crawls. I don't remember how to DM one of those.

I'm running my new game via IRC but have considered klooge.werks as well.I might revive my PbP as a mid-level game one of these days, as well. If the D&DI supported Macs from day one, I'd give that a shot; though none of the virtual tabletop apps support adventuring in three dimensions, to my knowledge.

Dude, you totally need to go to the April NC Game day. I'm planning on going to that. I'd love to get a chance to play in one of your underwater games.

 

[TheYeti1775]

I saw your on Pen and Paper's registry, you know you have two others in the Tulsa are that are looking for games there as well.

 

[KingCrab]

Run some one-shots and offer prizes. Once they get to know you, I am sure there will be a line for your games.

And if you offer the kids as prizes your wife won't be swamped when you leave the house in the evening!

Just kidding. I don't think you'd need to offer prizes. Find a one shot you really like and try to get people excited about coming for one session. If it goes okay, they'll likely come back.

 

[der_kluge]

I saw your on Pen and Paper's registry, you know you have two others in the Tulsa are that are looking for games there as well.

I'm pretty sure I contacted one of those guys with no response. The other one is new. He lives pretty far away though.

Thanks

 

[Calico_Jack73]

You're either not married or married to an amazing woman. Hell, I'm only engaged and already get my life dictated to me on a daily basis... And I wouldn't have it any other way. Love truly is strange.

Actually my wife and I are going to be celebrating our 10th anniversary next May. She is amazing! She doesn't "get" gaming but she understands that it is "My Thing" and that it makes me happy. She doesn't judge or dictate my schedule but at the same time I am considerate of her and make sure she knows my schedule in advance so she can plan around it.

DK: I just want to be clear that I meant no offense. Family comes first and if something happened that required me to give up gaming (such as taking up a second job on the weekends to support my family) then I'd do it without looking back. My group is EXTREMELY easy going and we have laid the ground rule that life comes first and if a player can't make it then they shouldn't feel in the least way guilty about missing the session(s). We've got a brand new father in the group and he has had trouble making our sessions but I even suggested to him to take a few months off and we'd see him whenever he could make it back.

 

[ssampier]

Switch to C&C and play in one of my Live Talking SKYPE games.

I'll never go back to PbP.

I use Skype at alot for work - really.

What do you use to roll dice?