For example, you are really concerned about "automatic pass" or "automatic fail" based on adjudication of declared actions. And that happens in my game probably less than many of the games you are happy to play. For example, you mention that you play in a game were the house rule is "If you touch the lava you die." So in that game, all action declarations that result in you touching the lava are automatic fails. No one regardless of circumstances can run across the surface of a lava lake. So you are actually OK with "automatic fails" you just have quirks of when you are OK with them.