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I would second the comment about the sunshine. Get out each day for an hour and you get much needed UV rays.
Doesn't matter if it's cloudy or not but it has to be outside.
As well therapy helps a lot of people. I'm not the *biggest* fan of the Mental Health Act but some people swear by psychiatry.
Doesn't matter if it's cloudy or not but it has to be outside.
As well therapy helps a lot of people. I'm not the *biggest* fan of the Mental Health Act but some people swear by psychiatry.
caudor
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Knightfall1972 said:
Robert, I'm also sorry for your loss. I know these feelings well; it hasn't been long since I lost my Dad. At the time, it felt like it was the straw that broke my back. I did lose all hope for the future. However, from there it was a downward spiral and I tried to commit suicide twice several months later. Thankfully, I failed. I was diagnosed with Major Depression after this happened. By the way, I'm now on medication and doing much better.
I'll offer this advice as friend (keep in mind I'm not a mental health professional). I suspect the inner anger you feel is a natural part of the grieving process. These feelings are powerful, but normal and should ease with time...lots of time. With that said, please keep in touch with your feelings over the coming months. It is NOT normal if these feelings dominate your life to where you can't function in society or cause you to have thoughts of worthlessness or thoughts of harming yourself.
If the latter is true, please go seek help---even if you don't feel like it. As in my case, real Clinical Depression can and does happen to people after a major life loss sometimes. If you have Depression, you just can't snap out of it no more than you can snap out of a broken arm.
I'm not concluding that you medically depressed. I just want to help you understand the difference between natural grieving and the medical type of depression. Both feel absolutely terrible, but one heals and the other destroys.
Please take care of yourself. I'm sure that's what your brother would want you to do. You and your family will be in my prayers.
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Darrin Drader
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Hey man, hang in there. This is obviously a rough patch for you, and I don't want to belittle the suffering you and your family are going through, but things will feel better in time.
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Robert, a few words of advice.
Stay on your meds. Even if it doesn't feel like they're working, you'll be a lot worse off if you stop taking them.
Keep your psychiatrist informed. And contact him or his office should things seem to be getting worse. You may need to change medication
If you start feeling like death would be preferable to the current situation, get your Canuck ass to hospital. Do not pass go, do not collect 200 (American) dollars.
And a bit of advice for everybody else.
Severe depression is not something you just get over. When a person is in that state he needs medical help, and that can mean hospitalization. Walks in the park and daily doses of sunshine won't do it. Encouragement and support can help, but they can't do the job all by themselves.
Robert should make it through this. These days a crisis is not an automatic (self-inflicted) death sentence. But there will be times when it seems impossible to him. Continue your support, but be ready to order his going to hospital if he starts talking about suicide.
And Robert, you need some time off, take it. Better a few weeks away while your health is restored than an eternity.
Stay on your meds. Even if it doesn't feel like they're working, you'll be a lot worse off if you stop taking them.
Keep your psychiatrist informed. And contact him or his office should things seem to be getting worse. You may need to change medication
If you start feeling like death would be preferable to the current situation, get your Canuck ass to hospital. Do not pass go, do not collect 200 (American) dollars.
And a bit of advice for everybody else.
Severe depression is not something you just get over. When a person is in that state he needs medical help, and that can mean hospitalization. Walks in the park and daily doses of sunshine won't do it. Encouragement and support can help, but they can't do the job all by themselves.
Robert should make it through this. These days a crisis is not an automatic (self-inflicted) death sentence. But there will be times when it seems impossible to him. Continue your support, but be ready to order his going to hospital if he starts talking about suicide.
And Robert, you need some time off, take it. Better a few weeks away while your health is restored than an eternity.
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Sorry, Mythusmage, but I have seen what anti depressants do to a person. They only hide the symptoms and do little to heal the root cause.
Depression is quite a serious problem and can be combated through love, support, friendship, sunlight, and "getting out and doing."
My GF had quite the problem with depression when I first met her, she lost access to her pills when she lost her insurance shortly there after. We worked on keeping her moving (physical activity, friends, socialization, etc.) and eventually her lifetime dependence on anti depressants was over.
A couple members of my group have suffered through as well. Only one is presently still on the antidepressants and he is weaning himself off of them. We spend a lot of time communicating and being friends.
Despite what Doctors think they do not have all the answers. Yes, they can help, and yes anyone considering the end should seek some help (whether its through the use of pills or seeking a respite), but Doctors can not even say the word ‘cure’ much less do it (interestingly there is no curable diseases within a doctor’s vocabulary- ask one if you don’t believe me).
Knightfall- keep talking, find people that want to hear from you, seek a support group, spend as much time as you can being with people, and if you need get a person with a degree in psychology to talk to about your feelings. Good friends are worth a lot in situations like the one you described.
Depression is quite a serious problem and can be combated through love, support, friendship, sunlight, and "getting out and doing."
My GF had quite the problem with depression when I first met her, she lost access to her pills when she lost her insurance shortly there after. We worked on keeping her moving (physical activity, friends, socialization, etc.) and eventually her lifetime dependence on anti depressants was over.
A couple members of my group have suffered through as well. Only one is presently still on the antidepressants and he is weaning himself off of them. We spend a lot of time communicating and being friends.
Despite what Doctors think they do not have all the answers. Yes, they can help, and yes anyone considering the end should seek some help (whether its through the use of pills or seeking a respite), but Doctors can not even say the word ‘cure’ much less do it (interestingly there is no curable diseases within a doctor’s vocabulary- ask one if you don’t believe me).
Knightfall- keep talking, find people that want to hear from you, seek a support group, spend as much time as you can being with people, and if you need get a person with a degree in psychology to talk to about your feelings. Good friends are worth a lot in situations like the one you described.
John Q. Mayhem
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I'm sorry for you troubles, Robert. I'll pray for you and your family.
Long days and pleasant nights.
Long days and pleasant nights.
Blacksilver,
Doesn't work for everybody. Some people can be helped without resorting to anti-depressants. Others can't. You need to tailor treatment to the individual. Believe me, when you've been on disability for two years you need anti-depressants.
Some people are put on medication because it's cheaper than the alternative. A sad fact of life. Insurance companies tend to be penny wise but pound foolish.
Where your SO and your friends are concerned, I hope they all have long, productive, happy lives. And continue to be a friend.
Doesn't work for everybody. Some people can be helped without resorting to anti-depressants. Others can't. You need to tailor treatment to the individual. Believe me, when you've been on disability for two years you need anti-depressants.
Some people are put on medication because it's cheaper than the alternative. A sad fact of life. Insurance companies tend to be penny wise but pound foolish.
Where your SO and your friends are concerned, I hope they all have long, productive, happy lives. And continue to be a friend.
Knightfall
World of Kulan DM
Whisperfoot said:
Thanks, mon ami.
feeling better will happen, I know it will. It's just going to take some time. Christmas, this year, is going to be hard, as will his birthday.
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