Is Your DM Too Controlling?

[Kastil]

Hopefully I am not reading too much into this, but is it that your DM does not show women enough respect? In my experience that is a common problem faced by many female gamers.

I was wondering the same thing when I started reading this thread. Granted, I can't say I have that problem with my group and we've gamed together quite a bit.

Have you tried online gaming? This is the only way I game now (yes I miss getting together with friends but they aren't playing anymore) or better yet, if your husband DMs, why not have him start a campaign again. Have you tried your hand at DMing yet?

You are not alone in this prediciment, however. I had one problem with a DM and I simply dropped out of the game. He had a great campaign in store and I was very excited to play because I'd seen some of the work he's done in the past as far as concepts. Well, the game ended up being similar to what you described. No matter what our PCs did (and I know as a DM PCs can make the best of plans dust on the floor) the bad guys still were succeeding in destroying their target. It left a very sour taste in my mouth.

Al in all, you can get your point across to the DM without making it should harsh. Playing an RPG is somewhat like real life, stuff happens. Lord knows my players have thrown a monkey wrench and sometimes the whole tool box into my works. It's always good to have a Plan B, PLan C......

Not sure if this helps but if you're not enjoying yourself, then it's not worth it.

 

[blueshade]

To answer everyone's question on whether I am mistreated for being a female gamer I would probably say no. Well at least that is what I think only because outside the game table he is nothing but nice to me. But then again after thinking he might not be all that nice because he will mention something like a good book that he has read that he knows I will like and I will be like oh that is cool. Then the next time we meet he has the book even though when I was asked if I wanted to borrow it I had said no. So then I have more junk lying around my house needlessly (we game at our house). LOL.

I like that Breakdaddy. A choose your own adventure game except he is the one doing all the choosing. Not how the game works.

No Kastil I have not tried online gaming. And I would DM myself except nobody wants to play Star Wars and that is what I am most interested in running. In fact I have had 2 adventures all planned out since April and everytime I mention it I get shot down by the current DM and the other guy that we play with once in a while. My husband of course will play cause he knows how much I love SW and knows it will be a worthwhile game.