Well, we don't know exactly what was said at various points. Her request adding of the 'S' to the name was something that had been brought up years ago. It's not a recent request. So when Justin said this in his blog post:Wow... So, first, Jaquays did not request her name be taken off of the concept. That didn't happen. It's not a real thing. To be clear here: I am not accusing Alexander of making it up. You lot did. The article could not be more clear that the actual objection was not to using her name, it was to spelling it wrong. Stop using "jaquaying" and start using "jaquaysing." That is all she is requesting of you. Alexander wants to change it to "xandering" because he wants to publish a book and using someone else's name like that raised some questions with the publisher, and also, because of course he wants to name it after himself. (And possibly a bit of "I'd rather change it to an entirely word than spell it differently, because I dislike that S for aesthetic reasons.")
Second, the "harassment" being brought up here is only and entirely people saying "use jaquaysing instead of jaquaying" and maybe occasionally taking that objection too far. Again, you made this up, not Alexander. The article spells this out in plain English with no ambiguity whatsoever. Yes, Jaquays is almost certainly catching some highly unpleasant naughty word over trans issues, but that's entirely disconnected from the word "jaquaying" and is not mentioned or even hinted at in the blog post in question here.
Yes, I literally made an account just to come in here and say this, because holy crap, six freaking pages of people saying "she said to take her name off it, so just stop using her name for it" when she literally never said that is way, way too much.
'I spoke with Jennell earlier this year. We both agreed that the name should be changed, and I said it would be a large project to do it, but I’d make sure it happened by the end of the year.'
We do not know if this recent conversation is referencing her merely original desire from years ago to add the 'S' to the term, or in fact was a new conversation where they perhaps agreed to change it altogether. The blog post does not make this clear. Maybe she did want her name kept as part of the term but just wanted the 'S' added (and Justin said no)... or perhaps if Justin brought up the fact that he was going to be writing a book and needed to finalize a term, Janelle didn't care one way or the other whether the term used her name (with the 'S' or no) and so they agreed to let Justin change it to whatever he wanted.
Now you might very well be correct... but then again there's no reason to suggest why your interpretation of the matter should mean more that what we've all gleaned from the post ourselves. I mean unless you have some personal knowledge of the situation or a connection to Janelle (which maybe you do, but you did not insinuate that to be so.) So it's fine that you finally made an account just in order to try and "correct" us on the matter... but unless you do have that connection to the people involved, there's no reason for us to take your opinion as anything more than just that-- your opinion.