Remathilis
Legend
Serious question: how often do you actually say no to that exception (assuming the exception is reasonable and not op)?Again wrong. Nothing prevents a DM to change the stat bonuses for one particular character. I have done so on many occasions in my 37 years of DMing. But again, these were not the norm they were, exceptions for the rule of cool. I even once lifted the limitations on levels for a single classed elven fighter (no multiclass, just a plain simple fighter). Anything can be done as long as the players understand that this is an exception.
But when the exception is the norm... there's no point in having an exception does it?
For example, drow elves are an optional race in every edition of D&D, but I've never turned down nor been turned down form playing one. Technically, it's an exception to play a non-evil drow, but PCs are always exceptional. I don't think I've ever said or heard say "sorry, but you can only be a drow if you're a CE demon worshipper." Yet for all those non-evil drow, nobody has ever stopped viewing drow primarily as antagonists. The lore didn't suffer. Why? Because the heroic drow are still wildly outnumbered by the non-pc evil drow. They are still exceptions.
That all said, I wonder how many people here would accept a game where races MUST abide by the alignment section of thier race. It's a racial trait according to Max, so what if elves MUST be CG, dwarves LG, tieflings LE and half-orcs CN? Humans, of course, could be any alignment due to having no specific tendency.