I find myself to be in roughly the same position as the OP. I've been reading these forums for awhile, and this thread has gotten me passionate enough to post.
I have frequented several gaming stores near my hometown, and have watched as many of them have closed their doors. I have a great gaming group, and have been playing various games (Magic, D&D, and GURPS, to name a few) for quite some time, and yet, despite my regular visits and purchases, I've always felt like a burden - an outsider who was just distracting the guys running the store from having a good time.
Just a year ago, I moved to Maryland, and things didn't get muh better. One of the most competitive and largely-populated gaming stores near Towson is messy, the employees are often distracted, the owner is condescending, and the owner's dogs are left to freely roam the store. There is one employee there who is fun and helpful, but he doesn't know much about running the store, so his kindness alone isn't enough to make me want to keep going back.
Not to mention that some of the employees are usually licking the ketchup off their fingers while ringing me up.
So yes, I'm a little impassioned about this - I'm just glad someone else brought this to light, since it seems like many people have learned to accept and even expect this kind of behavior from their LGS.
I'd like to believe that my experiences weren't typical, but many of the posts on this thread seem to suggest that they are.
Pardon my impassioned response. I mean no offense.