Voadam
Legend
I don't think separating appearance from charisma is particularly problematic of itself, in either a generic sense or in the East Asian context. I don't feel it is something that particularly needs to be statted out in a game and it could potentially lead to problematic issues about beauty, but generally I do not think it is a big deal itself. I don't really have a problem with it as a core stat in White Wolf games, for instance.This comeliness debate reminds me of the word "niggardly". Sure, you can argue about the word's etymological roots, but it's still a dumb-@$$ move to use it, especially as a public figure. Similarly, we can argue about how comeliness pre-dated OA, but just the fact that TSR folks didn't think, "You know, rolling this new attribute out on a large scale in this particular book might not be the best idea" shows they weren't aware of the sensitivities involved. It was clueless, but (probably) not evil.
The big problem I see with Comeliness the 1e AD&D stat is the mechanics and descriptions. They take away autonomy in reaction to appearance. They direct roleplay to beauty trope scripts. They feed into exaggerated sexualization and toxic relationship dynamics. The codifying of a hostile reaction to rejection by attractive people is particularly problematic in my view.
This is an issue for both men and women but generally much more of an issue for women.
This is fairly consistent with and feeds into problematic sexy dragon lady tropes about Asian women, but also problematic sexualization tropes about blondes, redheads, Black women, Latina women, and many specific ethnicity women sexualization tropes.
I am glad it was not carried forward into 2e and beyond.