OT - I need you guys

[Umbran]

Wow, that's rough. My sympathies go out to you.

P-cat and Henry have the right of it. Talking to friends is good. But adding a greif counsellor would be a good move. A good one knows a good sight more than the average Joe about what goes on inside the head of someone in mourning. Friends will be able to give you support while you work things out. A counsellor will actually help you work through it to the other side.

 

[Old One]

Heart-felt Sympathies...

Kyle,

As the father of rambunctious 20-month old son, this tore a hole in my heart. I can't imagine the pain you must be going through, but my thoughts and prayers are with you. Although it may seem of little comfort now, I know you will treasure your decision to move back and be with him for the past year.

Peace,

~ Old One

 

[Cthulhu's Librarian]

Kyle,

I'll keep you in my thoughts, and you have my deepest sympathy. I'm sorry for your loss.

Rich

 

[devilish]

My deepest sympathies

Kyle,

I cried when I read your story -- my prayers and heartfelt thoughts to
you as you go through this. Please talk to a counselor and stay in
touch with us and let us know if there's anything we can do.

-D

 

[Treebore]

I have three kids of my own. Two of them boys who sound very much like your own. Your pain is my greatest fear. I know I would feel torn apart and very empty if something happened to any of my kids. If it happened to all 3 I don't think I would be interested in living afterwords.

There is no cure for your pain. It will always be there. You will learn to deal with it and go on. Save your love for your next child. I know, you will never have another child. Save it for your next child anyway. Have the life with your next kid that you never got to have with this one. Who knows, maybe it will be Kaleb again.

Either way, Kaleb wouldn't want to cause you pain or make you sad. Recover for him. Live and be happy again, because you know that is what Kaleb would want you to do.

 

[billd91]

You have my condolences, Kyle. As a fellow parent (I have a 6 year old daughter and 1 month old son), what you are going through is one of my greatest fears. It's really hard to describe the attachment you have for your kids to non-parents because, quite frankly, it's an attachment I don't think I've ever experienced before or on such a deep level. I don't think there are any words I can say that could possibly help ease your pain, except that there are a good many of us our here wishing you the best.

 

[s/LaSH]

What can I say? I've lost loved ones, but never a child, so I can't truly understand this kind of loss. I am truly sorry.

It's hard, but death is but a moment, while life was far more than that. It could have been longer, but it was good, and those times were happy. Those are the times to remember, for what they were. And in time, I hope you'll realise that the good times are the important part, and put the bad times in perspective. The bad times will never go, but they shouldn't go. However, they're just a footnote in the grand scheme.

"It is better to have loved and lost, than have never loved at all."

 

[Krieg]

Kyle, I lost my daughter in 1994 to Leukemia. She was 11 months old.

As hard as it is to believe right now, life does go on.

The pain will never go away entirely, but eventually it will become bearable.

Go ahead and cry, yell, howl at the moon or whatever you need to do to vent your grief. It's OK, you're allowed.

Talking to a grief counselor, or finding another way to deal with your pain is definitely something you are going to want to seriously think about.

If there is anything at all I can do feel free to email me at fmatson(at)gmail.com

 

[iblis]

What can I say? I've lost loved ones, but never a child, so I can't truly understand this kind of loss. I am truly sorry.

That sums it up for me too.

I sincerely hope that sometime in the future, life becomes more bearable. I would also recommend sharing the burden, at least some, if that's possible.

 

[Dark Jezter]

Kyle, I can't even begin to fathom the pain you must be going through. They say that the greatest tragedy is when a parent outlives their own child, and indeed it's hard to imagine anything that could be more painful and agonizing. I will remember you in my prayers, and I sincerely hope that that things get better for you.

Take care, and God bless.