[OT, Personal] I don't know what to do....

[Wolfspider]

[OT, Personl] I don't know what to do....

Tracy, my girfriend of two years, left me yesterday without telling me. She moved everything out and left me a note.

I miss her so much! I don't know what to do.....

I'm so sad....

 

[Paladin]

I feel for you, I had the same thing happen with my ex-wife. One day just up and left, leaving only a note. Strangely enough, it was in Hopkinsville too! No joke, I was in the Army at Ft. Campbell, living off post in Hopkinsville. Cheer up, it'll get better, she obviously wasn't the one for you.

 

[Crothian]

Oww! I'm so sorry. I'm still searching for the magic word that will help people when this happens.

Did the note at least offer some sort of closure? I hope this wasn't totally out of the blue for you, those are the worst. Get together with some friends and enjoy life the best you can. It only gets easier from here on out.

 

[Mark]

Sorry to hear about that...

 

[Angelsboi]

im so sorry. I was there about Febuary. I know how ya feel

*hugs dude*

 

[der_kluge]

It's simple - talk to your girlfriend, tell her how you feel, and work through the issues if possible. If she's not willing to work with you, then count your losses, and move on. Two years is a long time to date someone. Perhaps she's looking for more of a commitment? I don't know.

 

[Greatwyrm]

Get up, dust yourself off, and move on. Find another girl, if you feel you're ready. Just don't give up entirely.

Persistance and patience pay off. My wife is the thirteenth girl I asked to prom my senior year of high school. Nobody ever believes this, but I swear its true. If twelve others hadn't told me no, I might not be happily married now.

 

[shouit]

Sorry man.


Without trying to be nosy, but what did the note say? Did she list off the reasons she left, did she just say goodbye? Hopefully she gave reasons and didn't just leave you hanging with no answers.

People sometimes do the strangest things. I am sorry that happened.

 

[Quickbeam]

I am so sorry to hear that, Wolfspider. Without trying to dispense any advice, just let me say that leaving without talking to you first in an open and mature manner is low. Others may say that she was trying to avoid confronting delicate or overwhelming issues, or that she was trying to spare your feelings by not being outright harsh and telling you her gripes and problems. In my experience, that's BULL!!

After two years you deserved better than this, and I wish you every bit of good fortune in finding it.

 

[Henry]

I really feel for you, Wolf. It is really tough when your love breaks it off with you - DOUBLY so when they've been living with you, because it's almost the same as losing a spouse.

Stupid as it may be, I offer a few comforting words:

First of all - are your relations completely broken? Is there any talk? or has she made it clear that she has no interest.

If this is so, you must absolutely believe, Life does get better. There are life challenges, there are opportunities to find another who will want to share a place in your life. I DON'T WANNA READ ABOUT OUR ILLUSTRIOUS FOUNDER AT THE BOTTOM OF SOME RAVINE IN THE NEWS TOMORROW, ya hear me, Wolf?

You must also remember two things:

-From what you said in an earlier thread, it wasn't working for her for quite a long while. Anyone who is in a relationship yet doesn't WANT to be in it, really wasn't in it, if that makes sense.

-In my opinion, you have to decide what you REALLY want in your life from this point. It's definitely O.K. to drown those sorrows in some beer, some spending time with the buddies, and blow off as much steam as you can muster, etc., because letting it go is always preferable to holding it in. But eventually, stop, and think where do you want to go. Whether it's to find someone serious, to not date seriously for the time being, or to board up your apartment and live like a hermit in the deserts of Las Vegas, it will come to you. Find what that thing is, and go towards it with all your heart. If your girlfriend was not meant to be, then find what is. NO ONE'S LIFE IS INDELIBLY BOUND TO ANOTHERS', unless they wish it so. There is happiness out there for you. Just be you, and go get it.

Carpe Diem, oh Great One!