Final post on this; I know this is getting too political for this forum, but I thought this was the best place to put this.
If the view you are talking about is what Chappelle said - do you understand why people, particularly trans people, may wrongly make those assumptions, however? Especially if, after those reasons I have listed above, you are saying you just see it differently?
There is still a lot of hurt* over what Chappelle said and the fact he refuses to apologise for it; he, in fact,
released a joke reply statement earlier this week - almost treating it as a PR campaign. With recent awful articles from the BBC (and British media in general) about trans people, this hurt is getting worse.
So while it can be wrong to make these assumptions or be, well, not exactly polite... for most trans people, particularly those out and about just trying to live their lives, they have to deal with being questioned by real life people and the media about who they are. That is going to lead to resentment. That's going to lead to lashing out.
I don't know your identity and if you are trans or queer I'm preaching to the converted in many cases; but do understand that with all this
naughty word going on, people are starting to fray at the edges.
We just want to live our lives. We really did not choose this. Chappelle, Rowling - they get to choose to hate us and get to face no consequences.
* mainly in the online communities I see - but for a variety of reasons, particularly the current coronavirus circumstances and my own living arrangements, I am unable to regularly, if at all, talk with other trans people in real life.