Hussar
Legend
[/INDENT] Are parts 1 & 2 even that relevant? All that matters, IMHO, are parts 3 & 4. Assume, for a moment, that Player 1 creates a character who is in love with Player 2 and Player 2 agrees to that set-up. Now suppose that during the course of play, Player 1 pushes the boundaries of what Player 2 finds acceptable. Player 2 gets wigged out and asks him to stop. He's not interested in that sort of thing.
In both cases Player 1 is pushing the boundaries of what Player 2 finds acceptable. Is Player 2's knowledge of a "romance" relevant?
1 and 2 are relevant to this discussion insofar as I was simply recapping the chain of events that were specific to this example. I wasn't trying to say that this was necessarily the only way this could play out.
There are any number of ways this could happen, I was simply elucidating for those who might have lost track, what the specific example in this case was.
No worries.
Celebrim said:I mean, it's going to be great if everyone is perfectly understanding, but ultimately all you are doing is just saying, "No." No matter how much you say, "This is my problem, not yours.", you've just slapped down some other players idea.
And what is the problem with that? The other player introduced an element that I have zero interest in. Why should I have to compromise at all here?
Sure, it might be great if I did, but, at what point do any other players at the table get the right to dictate the game to me?
Remember, Player 2 in this example had no idea that this was coming. This was totally out of left field. He or she was not asked beforehand at all and actually, Player 1 specifically tells the DM not to tell Player 2 and let it be a surprise.
Sorry, if someone drops something in my lap, it's entirely within my rights to say, "No, thank-you".
Let's move the goalposts somewhat. Instead of Player 1, it's the DM who does this. The DM introduces an NPC and has the NPC begin stalking the PC. The PC turns to the DM, and OOC says that this makes him/her feel very uncomfortable, could it please stop. The DM reacts by having the NPC murder the PC in his/her sleep.
"Oh, well, you brushed off crazy stalker guy, he didn't take it too well. It's all in character," says the DM.
Would you continue playing with that DM? I might, but, there'd be some very serious conversations around the coffee table for a while.
I strongly disagree with any viewpoint that says a player HAS to play to someone else's ideas when that player finds those ideas uncomfortable.
Again, no means no.