The argument is simple enough for me. I can have sexin real life. I play fantasy roleplaying games because I cannot get that in my real life. In real life, I am not a hero slaying goblins to protect my village, I cannot cast spells, nor can I track deer through a forest.
It's not that violence is more acceptable. It's just that I want to play a game to act out things that I cannot do in my daily life.
Now, maybe I would have been more open to the BoEF when I was a virgin. Certainly, I was not having sex in real life then, so maybe I would have wanted to act out silly fantasies in game. (And that is the rub, that statement would sound bad to anyone when sex is involved!)
Friends, especially male friends, do not want to act out sex fantasies together!
Even virgins will eventually have sex in real life, but you will never pick up your father's blade and defend the village from attack. Or hack apart your enemies... at least, I hope none of us will do that in real life.
It'd give gamers a bad name dontcha know.
Dave