Esker
Hero
Then my advice would be to:
1. stop slamming your head on the table
Oh, don't worry, I'm not literally slamming my head on the table. The hair I've pulled out, on the other hand...
2. stop reading the threads
What, and just leave other rogue players everywhere to fend for themselves against the onslaught? I mean, granted, they are pretty good at avoiding taking serious injuries from barrages of barbed house rules, but still.
3. play your game as you want
I mean... obviously everyone here is going to do that. I figure the point of a discussion about a proposed house rule is to get other people's perspectives and become better aware of the consequences.
Seriously, though, yeah, we have finesse only adds to attack rolls, we allow double-dashing, and we want to reign in expertise. Of course, this is all in the discussion stage so it all might be for naught...
You do the finesse thing too? Do you allow non-finesse weapons to add strength to the attack roll? If you do that but you don't give finesse weapons DEX to damage, then I ask: which of your pets or loved ones was assassinated by a rogue?