Roommates: A rant and request for advice

[bento]

And in states where it's not illegal, it can lead to common-law marriage in as little as six months, so be careful.

There's usually a few other things that have to happen to be considered for common-law marriage. Co-mingling of funds (joint checking account or signing together to purchase on credit) is a biggie here in Texas. Another is regularly telling others that the SO is your spouse.

Stay away from these two conditions as it could come back to bite you in the butt if you ever break-up.

[disclosure: I'm not a lawyer, but I heard this advice from a lawyer on a radio talk show! ]

 

[Simplicity]

Take this moment to see your fiance in a new light. There's a thin line between love and hate, and you may find yourself on the other side of this childish behavior at some point in the future. It seems to me that you don't think your brother's SO is Hitler reincarnated, so it's purely her problem. She needs to grow up (which you can't make her do). So either live with it or move on.

As for the move-in before marriage issue... you're a fool if you don't. There's just way too much that can go wrong once you actually are forced to share a place with someone.

 

[Hijinks]

Keep this in mind too... when women live or work together, their monthly cycles tend to sync up so that they are PMS'ing at the same time. Picture it...

If you'd rather gouge your own eyes out than deal with both of these girls with PMS, maybe look into alternate arrangements.

I honestly think that your fiance is too young to be getting married or have any real-life responsibility.

 

[billd91]

This does not sound like it is going to end well at all.

Normally, I'd think that a good rational discussion and compromise would be appropriate. Try to start a discussion that way. But given that your fiance is calling your brother's SO Hitler over an air conditioning issue (why not close a couple vents in the room she's in or put on warmer clothes?), I don't think it's going to work.

I do think it's best to start out by trying to be rational and calm, but you and your brother have to be prepared to lay down the law when they refuse to cooperate (and I believe they will).

Lesson to be learned: Never move into a situation with someone else's SOs. Moving in with your own is fine. You generally know at least a little of what you're getting into. It's a whole new ballgame when someone else's SO is involved.

 

[Ambrus]

Keep this in mind too... when women live or work together, their monthly cycles tend to sync up so that they are PMS'ing at the same time. Picture it...

I've heard that before. Does this seem like a serious design flaw in the female gender to anybody else but me?

Lesson to be learned: Never move into a situation with someone else's SOs.

QFT. Been there, done that. Bad idea.

 

[SteelDraco]

I've heard that before. Does this seem like a serious design flaw in the female gender to anybody else but me?

Yeah, it does seem a bit curious. I wonder how/why that came about. How is that advantageous?

 

[kyloss]

Well when living in a tribal society, all the men know when to go for that long multiday group hunt at the same time maybe?

 

[Merkuri]

I've heard that before. Does this seem like a serious design flaw in the female gender to anybody else but me?

Well, think of it this way. The other three weeks of the month are clear sailing.

Seriously, though, I think it has to do with hormones. A group of women all on the same cycle is probably easier to attract men and get pregnant than if they're all on different cycles. It concentrates the pheramones. Or something.

 

[Jeysie]

Yeah, it does seem a bit curious. I wonder how/why that came about. How is that advantageous?

Moral support.

The women get to whine, moan, eat chocolate, cry, and be miserable together.

The men get to whine, moan, drink beer, and complain about their PMSing women together.

(Actually, I think PMS in general is a flaw in the female gender. Thanks for nothing, Mother Nature.)

As for the topic at hand, I echo the thought that I'd give up on trying to be roommates. I might also reconsider getting married as well, at least until your SO shows a bit more maturity towards compromise.

Peace & Luv, Liz

 

[Ambrus]

Seriously, though, I think it has to do with hormones.A group of women all on the same cycle is probably easier to attract men and get pregnant than if they're all on different cycles.It concentrates the pheromones.Or something.

I'm certain an anthropologist or biologist could make some logical sense of it, though I think you're probably on the right track.

I figure that it's somehow advantageous if all the women in a tribe ovulate simultaneously. Essentially it gives each woman an equal chance of attracting a mate and conceiving when the opportunity to do so occurs. Perhaps if a woman ovulates earlier she'd possibly have the edge in attracting all available men and the other women would risk going without when it's their turn? So to improve their chances their cycles shift to match the earlier ovulating female's cycle? Essentially, when the race for mates starts, women with matching cycles are all ready to compete equally? It's about the only advantage to this arangement that I can imagine... :\