Rob, you need to take care of yourself first, then your marriage, then your job and then your gaming. You are a man before you are a husband before you are a worker before you are a gamer. This thread, another post, and information on your profile sound like a cry for help. Get it. Don't do anything drastic like suicide. Talk to someone: a friend, a doctor, a priest or anyone. Posting here is actually a great step. Don't be too hard on yourself. It's okay to quit gaming. I've done it several times. It will be here when you are ready to return. Take care.
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For whatever little my advice may help, I have a book to recommend: [ame="http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handbook-David-Burns/dp/0452281326"]The Feeling Good Handbook[/ame], by Dr. David Burns. I can tell you that it has been as much help to me as therapy was, if only because it's sometimes easier to "talk" to a book than to a psychologist. As a matter of fact, many psychologists recommend this book to patients/clients, and this one book is certainly cheaper than even a single therapy session.
That said, no book can solve all your problems. However, if you put your effort into completing the exercises in this book, it might help you (and your wife) find the strength and level-headedness to deal with the problems directly.
That said, no book can solve all your problems. However, if you put your effort into completing the exercises in this book, it might help you (and your wife) find the strength and level-headedness to deal with the problems directly.
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Burns was incredibly helpful for me (depression and anxiety issues). I would also suggest "Recovery Inc." which is a self-help group (kinda like Alcoholics Anonymous) for people with anxiety and depression. You can look it up on the web and find lots of meetings all over the place. Both Burns and Recovery Inc. use "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy" which has a lot of good research behind it. Also, both are cheap or basically free, which is nice.
BTW, the super-short version of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy:
When you are anxious, (1) remind yourself that it is OK and normal to be anxious, it is just a feeling, and it will eventually go away, (2) do something, anything small and useful, even if you don't feel like doing it. Over time, as you perform basic activities and think positive thoughts, your panic/anxiety will subside.
Not to suggest that a good therapist can't also be of help.
BTW, the super-short version of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy:
When you are anxious, (1) remind yourself that it is OK and normal to be anxious, it is just a feeling, and it will eventually go away, (2) do something, anything small and useful, even if you don't feel like doing it. Over time, as you perform basic activities and think positive thoughts, your panic/anxiety will subside.
Not to suggest that a good therapist can't also be of help.
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