Who said I had a solution? I was just stating the problem.
My personal modus operandi seems to be getting to know the woman as a friend first. Sit around and watch her date some smeg head for a little bit because I wasn't confident enough to ask her out first. Wait until that relationship crashes and burns and then things settle down a bit. Ask her out on a date in a process that usually involves physical nausea because I'm THAT bad at it. Date for a little, get dumped and then discover that I've wasted a number of years on a relationship that was doomed because apparently she just doesn't feel the same way.*
I wouldn't recommend this process
*not that I'm BITTER or anything.