The Hive is (realy) Dead! Long Live the Hive Mind!

[The_Warlock]

I'm sure I can check out San Francisco. Problem is Im leaving In December and perhaps earlier. I don't want to wail until Next year to start seriously looking but Im not sure I'd be comfortable with the "Frends with benefits" relationship.

I can definitely understand that point of view...but then, you have to decide what you want, how soon, and how committed...sometimes it's worth jumping back in the saddle after a fall...but it's been my experience, personal and vicarious, that after a break that involved very strong emotions, simpler connections and less committed interactions are better for figuring out what you want and how to get it, rather than trying to jump headfirst into another deep relationship.

Psychologically speaking, it's even generally considered less than ideal to rush back into a dedicated relationship without a rebound or just having single time to repair your personal mental shields.

 

[The_Warlock]

You take the good you take the bad you take them both and there you have.......

Wow, the 80's strike back...ow, ow, initiating memory purge...

 

[Goldmoon]

I can definitely understand that point of view...but then, you have to decide what you want, how soon, and how committed...sometimes it's worth jumping back in the saddle after a fall...but it's been my experience, personal and vicarious, that after a break that involved very strong emotions, simpler connections and less committed interactions are better for figuring out what you want and how to get it, rather than trying to jump headfirst into another deep relationship.

Psychologically speaking, it's even generally considered less than ideal to rush back into a dedicated relationship without a rebound or just having single time to repair your personal mental shields.

So youre suggesting a one night stand with a random hottie?

 

[Goldmoon]

Wow, the 80's strike back...ow, ow, initiating memory purge...

There's a time you got to go and show you're growin' now you know about.......

 

[The_Warlock]

So youre suggesting a one night stand with a random hottie?

I'm not suggesting anything...however, if there's filming involved, I'd like to cite my option for a copy or backroom viewing.

Actually, it's not a horrible idea, but only if it meshes with your personality and personal ethics. I'm not suggesting you do something contrary to your personal outlook. Maybe that would be good. Maybe you just need to find people of similar interest and orientation to hang out with, get to know people outside of the connotations of the dreaded word "relationship". Maybe have a great send off to guam with no strings attached...

That depends entirely on how you want to proceed, I've just rarely seen getting back into a full blown relationship right after a breakup work out well, regardless of gender and orientations. That's all.

So, don't sit and twiddle your thumbs, but don't put your head in the dragon's maw either.

 

[Aeson]

So youre suggesting a one night stand with a random hottie?

*ahem*

 

[The_Warlock]

There's a time you got to go and show you're growin' now you know about.......

Anti-Sitcom shields are up, and holding, Captain. We are receiving a weird transmission about "Trudy"...

Block that...

 

[Goldmoon]

*ahem*

Let me guess: Youll be in your bunk?

 

[Goldmoon]

Anti-Sitcom shields are up, and holding, Captain. We are receiving a weird transmission about "Trudy"...

Block that...

When the world never seems to be livin up to your dreams And suddenly you're finding out
the Facts of Life are all about you

 

[The_Warlock]

When the world never seems to be livin up to your dreams And suddenly you're finding out
the Facts of Life are all about you

Perspective...it's a wonderful thing.