Again, should we just assume that is the case? I'm not saying such people don't exist, but it seems like every time this topic comes up it is the player who doesn't want to play a human/dwarf/elf/halfling that is the problem. They are attention hogs who don't care or min-maxxers who don't care or.... it is endless.
I never said "doesn't want to play a human/dwarf/elf/halfling", that was you inferring. If I pitched a setting that didn't have those four race where they were wiped out in a primeval war with the gods and haven't been seen for thousands of years, those players would immediately slap down their human and dwarf characters before the sentence had finished.
And like I said before, approach matters. If the player makes an effort to describe how their unusual character could fit into the setting and the sort of game I pitched, that's far more likely to get me to say yes. For example, if I wanted to play a tiefling in
Primeval Thule (a swords-and-sorcery setting that doesn't have them by default), I might link it to the suggested origin of sorcerers, where they gain innate magic by transforming themselves into a being not entirely human, or have them be a servant of the demons who live up north, whose ancestors were twisted into a more pleasing form by the fiends. Things that make them part of the world rather than "I just want to play a devil-man and didn't bother reading anything about the setting." And I'd also make it clear that if this guy doesn't work for them, I'm fine with playing a more standard character.
That's the difference for me. Not the desire to play a weird character in itself, but the attitude towards the game that I get from how any given request is phrased. Wanting a wacky character doesn't mean they're an attention hog or min-maxer.....but I've seen some correlation. Notably from one player early on in my gaming career, who just had to play whatever the wacky non-standard option was for every given campaign, and then milk it for drama and "every scene is about me". He was the embodiment of a line from an old White Wolf book--"Don't confuse having an interesting character sheet with having an interesting character."
