The Once-a-Month Blues

[drothgery]

Over the past three years we have lived quite literally all over San Diego County. Now, I'm pretty sure we're happy here in Lakeside (Just east of Santee). Good $ to Square footage ratio

Can't be. In SoCal there's bad $/sq ft, awful $/sq ft, and insane $/sq ft. If you think otherwise, you've been in SoCal too long.

 

[Kuld]

Can't be. In SoCal there's bad $/sq ft, awful $/sq ft, and insane $/sq ft. If you think otherwise, you've been in SoCal too long.

LOL, sorry I should have said the best $/sq ft ratio.

 

[mythusmage]

I know I should find a new group. It's just upseting because we've all been friends for so long and I have already put so much time into the campaign. I would like to see it through to the end and I'm the DM. Thank you eveyone for all your help.

I was thinking along the lines of in addition to. It looks like your old group is winding down and is probably turning into a socialization instead of a gaming group. A place to play closer by would give you the chance to get together for sessions more often and, I hope, keep the creative juices flowing with greater volume

Over the past three years we have lived quite literally all over San Diego County. Now, I'm pretty sure we're happy here in Lakeside (Just east of Santee). Good $ to Square footage ratio

I've gone further for a game.

Right now I have a game in Clairemont, and I might be getting one together in City Heights or El Cajon. Depends on what my contacts in the latter case have to say. No matter how it works out if I can get you in touch with interested locals it's all to the good.

And speaking of contacting interested locals, I have a pair of links for folks in the San Diego area looking for fellow gamers. They are the San Diego Roleplaying Society and D&Dcontact_USA-San_Diego. We have members all over the county, so you could find somebody close. If nothing else you'll have contacts.

Where in SD are you?

I live a few blocks from the Gaslamp...

I'm a block from the Gaslamp. Believe me, you don't want to go shopping at Ralphs around midnight on a Friday or Saturday in this neighborhood.

You can get in touch with me via email (check my first post on this page), or the groups I linked to above.

 

[Henry]

...and that's why I love this place. "Can't find a game? Come to ours!"

I do agree with Ironwolf -- it may be time that you need to have a confab (via e-mail, phone, etc.) with the group and find out what the group feels about this. There's a lot of investiture on your part, and obviously not as much from the rest of the group.

Additionally, it's worth not only time to you, but money - you're probably spending $30 to $40 bucks for this trip each month, for nothing but the drive? It's not a lot of money, but for that much, you'd come out almost as well buying a video game or investing in a game book or snacks for a new group.

 

[JoeGKushner]

Welcome to reality, may I take your order?

1. Define why you're playing with these people.

2. Define if you can find a new group. If the answer is no, define why you cannot.

3. Define why you play. If you're only playing to socialize, then stop playing and just socialize.

I realized some time ago that some game styles, and not necessarily gaming, but the method of approach to gaming, the gaming cultures if you will, are not compatible. After realizing that, I've found over ten different players in two groups that I've enjoyed just as much as those with long standing friends whose philosiphies of RPGs are different than my own.

 

[Kuld]

I realized some time ago that some game styles, and not necessarily gaming, but the method of approach to gaming, the gaming cultures if you will, are not compatible. After realizing that, I've found over ten different players in two groups that I've enjoyed just as much as those with long standing friends whose philosiphies of RPGs are different than my own.
Today 06:26 AM

Some of the guys I play with definitely have a different gaming philosophy than mine. However, I DM the group, so I just let them play how they wish (power gamers). One guy in my group really likes to RP and I can cater to him as well. All in all it makes for a well balanced game; so I thought.

Maybe you’re right. Maybe because these guys are my long-time buddies I fail to see that, for some of them, our gaming sessions are nothing more than reason to socialize with their estranged friend from San Diego. In which case I’m flattered, but I came to play. Having fun with my friends of course, but I didn’t spend all that money on D&D books just to go over there and order pizza and drink a few brews. I would gladly do that on occasion but not when we all are set to play a game especially when I spent time away from my duties in order to make it happen. Not to mention the money for gas as Mr. Henry pionted out.

Thanks for the insight. You’ve helped me out more than I had expected from writing a short rant.

-Kuld

 

[Quickbeam]

Currently I game in two separate groups, and both groups experienced similar scheduling problems.

One group sat down a couple months ago and put a "permanent" schedule in place for our sessions, whereby play every other week with the game nights alternating bewteen Thursdays and Saturdays to help keep the peace at home. If you cannot attend a session, a copy of your PC is sent to the DM and either he or another player will run the character for that session.

The other group reorganized, removing a few players and settling into a more consistent schedule that is agreed to a week or more in advance.

In both cases, it really helped to sit down as a group and discuss what level of priority the game had to each person so that we could fairly agree to a workable schedule.

 

[JoeGKushner]

Sometimes real life sucks. I'd be the first to admit that I miss hanging around with some of my friends who don't enjoy the same style games I do because it seems that on those rare free days when I can hang out with them, they're playing! Irony. Then again, they're also into their own thing. For example, if I don't constantly call 'em up to see what's happening, for the most part, they return the favor.

It's only when playing that we really "socialize" and since I'd rather just watch Babylon 5 or Berserk anime with them then actually play with them due to our different styles, we don't hang out as much.

That didn't stop me from finding other players though. As others and myself have noted, life is too short for crappy games.

Some of the guys I play with definitely have a different gaming philosophy than mine. However, I DM the group, so I just let them play how they wish (power gamers). One guy in my group really likes to RP and I can cater to him as well. All in all it makes for a well balanced game; so I thought.

Maybe you’re right. Maybe because these guys are my long-time buddies I fail to see that, for some of them, our gaming sessions are nothing more than reason to socialize with their estranged friend from San Diego. In which case I’m flattered, but I came to play. Having fun with my friends of course, but I didn’t spend all that money on D&D books just to go over there and order pizza and drink a few brews. I would gladly do that on occasion but not when we all are set to play a game especially when I spent time away from my duties in order to make it happen. Not to mention the money for gas as Mr. Henry pionted out.

Thanks for the insight. You’ve helped me out more than I had expected from writing a short rant.

-Kuld