The propoganda is working? - A woman recommends dating nerds...

[crystal]

Revenge of the Nerds......



I agree with most everything including the "I want someone whom cares about me...." then ignores you.


How is it I can repair other people's relationships while mine falls further apart? I need to become a jerk or better off an @$$whole.

heavens no, dont do that.....A great woman will come along.....dont degraid yourself to that level........

 

[paulsometimes]

I think this article is crap. However, I've learned that it's better to be myself and be dateless than to start acting like someone I'm not just to try and get chicks. I've done the jerk thing and it's a shame it works, but I don't do it any more. I want a women I can be nice to and do romantic things for. Should that come along, great, if not, so it goes. Pretending to be someone you're not just to have someone by your side is not gonna keep you from feeling lonely. And on top of that, I can't bring myself to have respect for a women that has no respect for herself and consequently, lets herself be treated like crap.

 

[Mycanid]

Err ... strange.

Ah well.

One of the advantages about being a fungus is that you don't have to worry about all this stuff.

 

[trancejeremy]

I think this article is crap. However, I've learned that it's better to be myself and be dateless than to start acting like someone I'm not just to try and get chicks. I've done the jerk thing and it's a shame it works, but I don't do it any more. I want a women I can be nice to and do romantic things for. Should that come along, great, if not, so it goes. Pretending to be someone you're not just to have someone by your side is not gonna keep you from feeling lonely. And on top of that, I can't bring myself to have respect for a women that has no respect for herself and consequently, lets herself be treated like crap.

QFT

 

[MavrickWeirdo]

Err ... strange.

Ah well.

One of the advantages about being a fungus is that you don't have to worry about all this stuff.

I though every woman is looking for a fun gi

 

[ssampier]

I though every woman is looking for a fun gi

*groan*

That was bad

but funny.

Your humor is right up my alley.

 

[ssampier]

I think this article is crap. However, I've learned that it's better to be myself and be dateless than to start acting like someone I'm not just to try and get chicks. I've done the jerk thing and it's a shame it works, but I don't do it any more. I want a women I can be nice to and do romantic things for. Should that come along, great, if not, so it goes. Pretending to be someone you're not just to have someone by your side is not gonna keep you from feeling lonely. And on top of that, I can't bring myself to have respect for a women that has no respect for herself and consequently, lets herself be treated like crap.

Well I can't say women don't like jerks, but you can't be something you aren't. Instead, I'd try to less of a walking carpet and more a likable guy that's funny and has a lot going for him. I think that is really what many women are looking for.

I'm trying to be that guy.

 

[Mycanid]

Yes, yes, yes Mavrick ... I thought SOMEone would pick up on the joke. Nevertheless, I'm glad YOU said it and not me. It's a joke used so much I don't have the energy to use it anymore. Glad other's can get mileage out of it though.

 

[paulsometimes]

Well I can't say women don't like jerks, but you can't be something you aren't. Instead, I'd try to less of a walking carpet and more a likable guy that's funny and has a lot going for him. I think that is really what many women are looking for.

I'm trying to be that guy.

While I'm not a mind reader, I'd say a lot of people are doing their best to be something they're not. I've had too many conversation with people late at night where people start talking about how they need to be more of themselves and less of whoever it is they're pretending to be.
And as for a "likeable guy that's funny and has a lot going for him", for a lot of girl's I know that's a guy that looks good and has some comedy cd's to play in their car. I've known more than one girl that has hooked up with a guy that turns out to be a bit of a jerk and when I bluntly point this out, they say it doesn't matter, they can change him. The size of some women's egos is amazing (even more amazing is how that ego doesn't shrink when they find out they're wrong about some guy or another).

 

[xrpsuzi]

I think this article is crap. However, I've learned that it's better to be myself and be dateless than to start acting like someone I'm not just to try and get chicks. I've done the jerk thing and it's a shame it works, but I don't do it any more. I want a women I can be nice to and do romantic things for. Should that come along, great, if not, so it goes. Pretending to be someone you're not just to have someone by your side is not gonna keep you from feeling lonely. And on top of that, I can't bring myself to have respect for a women that has no respect for herself and consequently, lets herself be treated like crap.

This is exactly what happened with jgbrowning and I. This was the realization he had in his mid 20's (after a divorse in his early 20's), and he finally got to the point where he was content being alone. And then I asked him out.

While I agree that much of the post sounds like catty girl-speak that degrades or devalues the geek guy, the heart of the matter holds true I think. A guy that is himself and a girl that feels like she can be herself--when they can get together and be themselves and enjoy each other's time is golden. That's something that is more difficult to find when people are still wearing masks and trying to sell themselves. That's why I asked joe out--he wasn't trying to sell me anything. He was just joe and that was fine by me.

But I'm a weird girl. I value honesty (both to oneself and to others) above all else. Lots of women (especially when they're younger) would rather hear and believe pretty lies.

-Suzi