The way gaining maneuvers/stances is done is extremely shoddy, and thus, I always play either more than one ToB class multiclassed, or, go rogue/monk/something else and lead into swordsage/crusader.
If you take 4 levels of monk, then go swordsage, your IL is 3, allowing you to take level 1 and 2 stances and maneuvers, and since you get like 6 and 2, thats a huge power boost. If you go to level 10 as a Crusader, then take 4 levels of Warblade, not only do you wildly increase your power level for NO good reason, you get all your stances without wasting feats.
The design for much of ToB seems half-cooked. I love the book, but it desperately needed some sanity checks and rewrites for not just overpowered options, but for poorly built ones.