Compromise is the first step, of course. It’s what I’d attempt and what I’d expect and hope for by others. I don’t know if everyone agrees, based on many of the responses, but I’ve been approaching this conversation with that as a given.
The way
@overgeeked set the poll up, with only two options, implies only one can be chosen, so to me, the question is about what to do when some compromise can’t be reached.
Personally, I’d give the player what they want. I mean, in the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t really matter and as I’ve said many times now, real people are more important to me than fake ones.
Also, if it’s a case where I’ve decided 99% of the setting, I’m probably gonna be okay if this one time it turns out to be only 98%.
I suppose we should examine that a bit… why does the DM put in all that work?