When will my group ever accept me?

[reveal]

Ah, the Internet...where men are men, and so are most of the women!

2 people finally meet in the bus station after having an Internet romance.

Person 1: You said you were a 6'4" muscular blonde!

Person 2: You said you were a woman!

 

[fusangite]

I joined a group fairly recently (about 4 months ago) however my reception was, if anything, quite good. I think it helped that they had gone through a few players that caused some problems and were releived that I wasn't a complete jerk.

... and didn't cast wish spells inappropriately and then tried to use another wish to recover the XP, have a mail-order bride who would only play monks, insist on power attacking in all situations, leave after a few sessions to join the circus (literally!), etc.

I found that inserting my character into the group in the least disruptive way possible was key to acceptance. Each player had spent time carving out their niche in the party and for me to barge in and take over someone's modus operandi would be a recipe for emnity. Instead I watched and helped out where I could. If the party had a weakness or an unasigned role, I took it if I could fit it into my character's persona.

And now he's constantly on the edge of the multi-classing penalty as he tries to fill in a bunch of barely-related lacunae in our group. Still, we all like the impressive ability of the Bard/Ranger/Fighter/Rogue to make dirty jokes about the NPCs.