Where has Mark been?
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Edena_of_Neith
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I am very sorry, Mark (and I know that sorry, does not help, and I'm sorry about that also.)
I wish my own family appreciated the grim situation that you are in.
My family fights, and squabbles, and they waste precious time that could have been spent in family get-togethers, in celebrations, in holidays, in outings ... they sit and hate each other over petty things.
They seem to forget that life is a limited commodity, that what has happened to your mother IS going to catch up with them eventually, and when it does ... well, it will make all those petty squabbles seem ... they might just realize the stupidity of their behavior, in wasting their lives in anger and hatred, in bad behavior, but then it will be too late, and there will be no time to make up for what has been lost.
What could have been. What should have been, if they could have put aside jealousies and petty disputes and bad behavior.
But they will not learn, and that grim reality will come - as it has come to your mother - and they will realize they threw away something beautiful.
I hope that, in the time she has remaining, your mother - and all of you - can have the best of times, the best year of her life.
I hope you can.
Again, I am sorry, Mark. I know sorry does not help, but I am sorry.
Edena_of_Neith
I wish my own family appreciated the grim situation that you are in.
My family fights, and squabbles, and they waste precious time that could have been spent in family get-togethers, in celebrations, in holidays, in outings ... they sit and hate each other over petty things.
They seem to forget that life is a limited commodity, that what has happened to your mother IS going to catch up with them eventually, and when it does ... well, it will make all those petty squabbles seem ... they might just realize the stupidity of their behavior, in wasting their lives in anger and hatred, in bad behavior, but then it will be too late, and there will be no time to make up for what has been lost.
What could have been. What should have been, if they could have put aside jealousies and petty disputes and bad behavior.
But they will not learn, and that grim reality will come - as it has come to your mother - and they will realize they threw away something beautiful.
I hope that, in the time she has remaining, your mother - and all of you - can have the best of times, the best year of her life.
I hope you can.
Again, I am sorry, Mark. I know sorry does not help, but I am sorry.
Edena_of_Neith
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William Ronald
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Mark, always glad to help.
Edena, well spoken. I think that most of us need to learn to appreciate the people in our lives more. I hope that your families and others can settle their differences. While I do not agree with Nietzsche on many things, I do agree with this remark: Life is a thousand times too short.
My advice is to make good use of the days ahead. Build some memories, try to help your mom and other family members and old friend come together. Forgive each other your respective flaws. It can lift a lot of burdens from your heart.(It helped with my Dad's passing several years ago.)
Love endures. Faith manages.
Mark, the love that you have for your mother will endure past her death and her memory will always be with you. In the trying days to come, let that be a comfort for you. I have learned that in time we remember more of what we loved about people than their suffering and the misunderstandings that have occured from time to time. I remember my father's sense of humor, his irony, and his love of life more than the bad times.
Faith manages. Regardless of your belief system, believing in something -- even if it is just the essential decency of humanity - can get you through rough times. Sometimes faith in a better tomorrow is what gets us through the hard times when reason tells us that it is foolish to hope. Have faith in yourself that you can be strong for your mom and your family. Have faith in your fiends.
Hang in there, Mark.
Edena, well spoken. I think that most of us need to learn to appreciate the people in our lives more. I hope that your families and others can settle their differences. While I do not agree with Nietzsche on many things, I do agree with this remark: Life is a thousand times too short.
My advice is to make good use of the days ahead. Build some memories, try to help your mom and other family members and old friend come together. Forgive each other your respective flaws. It can lift a lot of burdens from your heart.(It helped with my Dad's passing several years ago.)
Love endures. Faith manages.
Mark, the love that you have for your mother will endure past her death and her memory will always be with you. In the trying days to come, let that be a comfort for you. I have learned that in time we remember more of what we loved about people than their suffering and the misunderstandings that have occured from time to time. I remember my father's sense of humor, his irony, and his love of life more than the bad times.
Faith manages. Regardless of your belief system, believing in something -- even if it is just the essential decency of humanity - can get you through rough times. Sometimes faith in a better tomorrow is what gets us through the hard times when reason tells us that it is foolish to hope. Have faith in yourself that you can be strong for your mom and your family. Have faith in your fiends.
Hang in there, Mark.
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