Why must a loving soul be so alone...

[Wystan]

I have a friend that is a good looking guy, he is 32 and has never had more than 2 dates with any one person. Keep looking.

 

[Jdvn1]

There's also the ... oh, I forget what it's called. More men are born than women in the US. However, there are more women in the US. Men die off faster, and there starts to be a big difference in population in the middle 20s. So, every day, your chances get better.

 

[ForceUser]

I have had faith for so long that I'd find that special someone by putting my life in the hands in the one from up above...

I feel you, man. The relationship that I thought could be "it" ended not too long ago, but despite that, I'm optimistic. There are six billion people on the planet. Even if only 1/10th of 1% of those people are compatible life partners, that's still, what, 600,000 people one could potentially build a happy life with? The odds are in our favor.

Here's my one piece of advice, FWIW: you need to be happy with who you are before you can be happy with someone else.

 

[Turanil]

You can look however you want and still get girls.

Don't listen to this garbage too.

Here's my one piece of advice, FWIW: you need to be happy with who you are before you can be happy with someone else.

On the other hand, that's word of wisdom.

 

[Lady_Acoma]

You know I have to agree that you just need to sit back and stop worrying about finding it right now and enjoy your life as it is. I have recently found someone in an unexpected place (a friend I had no idea cared for me or was avaliable to someone of my sexuality) and it was only after I stopped looking that I found it. I have generally found that it is when I stop looking that I find my best relationships. I have found people when looking, but I am always desperate and end up settling for something that I don't really want and it never works. Just be happy now man, we love you.

 

[Henry]

BelenUmeria said it in kind of a direct fashion, but I'll second the sentiment. The needier you are, the harder it gets to find someone - maybe it's the whole thing about "trying too hard," I suppose?

I suppose you could try the Tao of Steve ("Be Desireless" - "Be Excellent" - "Be Gone") and just leave off the last part but the important thing to remember is that you have to be comfortable with yourself before others can be comfortable with you. This is a HELLISHLY hard thing to do for some people, but it can make a difference in how others perceive you and how you subconsciously interact with other people.

 

[Henry]

Turanil and Ron, let's please take the insults off the boards - for whatever little that internet advice is worth, insulting one another in this thread is even less conducive.

 

[EricNoah]

There are proactive things you can do so that when "chance" brings you a meeting with someone, you are ready to seize that opportunity instead of saying, "Wow, she's great, so NOW I'll ..." whatever it is (diet, exercise, etc.). Taking classes, doing things that get you out of the house and into social situations (book clubs, volunteer work, etc.) can be helpful. It's hard for us introverts to do this -- I know!

 

[EricNoah]

I don't want to argue with you Henry but there were no "insults" given.

"Shut your face" is just plain old rude. I thought I sensed a teensy weensy bit of playfulness there, but it wasn't particularly obvious to me...

 

[Tewligan]

I'm not sure how they do things in France but...SHUT YOUR FACE!

I like the .sig I have now, but it may have to get dropped for this. I love it!