Why must a loving soul be so alone...

[KenM]

What services do escort services provide? I am aware that there are a couple in my area.

Well, that subject can get this thread closed fast. Lets just say they provide female (or male), comapionship for a time. What You two decide to do together is up to you.

 

[Angel Tarragon]

Well, that subject can get this thread closed fast. Lets just say they provide female (or male), comapionship for a time. What You two decide to do together is up to you.

Well, quite frankly, I'm not interested in a physical relationship.

 

[KenM]

With akk the crap I have put up with from women over the year. "Your a nice guy, but I just want to be friends." The kiss of death. Escort services are good for me. But it does not have to be physical with them. Thats just what I need need because all the other female relationships I have had ended badly, so God must not want me to be happy. But I need to have my physical needs fullfilled, so it works for me.

 

[Turanil]

For my part, I am simply amazed to find a thread that Crothian hasn't posted in...

I think I am going to take that for signature!! LOL!

 

[Empress]

With regards to internet dating, I can only say that nowadays I think it's a perfectly viable meeting ground. You can definitely talk to each other better than in a discotheque, and I know more than one couple who met on the net. Even if you're just looking for sex, the internet can help you, as there's AFF and similar sites.

The danger of being lied to is greater on the internet since the lie can extend to the whole appearance/age of the prospective partner, but it's certainly worth a shot. You should just keep to sites specific to that so you don't come off as too needy or creepy.

And don't, I can only stress this, don't talk to her about how lonely you are and in need of a long-term emotional relationship.

 

[Bagpuss]

There are too many people and organizations longing for help to be lonely and have a surplus of love. Find them, or be realistic about what you really want.

And as an added incentive some of these organizations have lonely women with a surplus of love at them too.

 

[Bagpuss]

The danger of being lied to is greater on the internet since the lie can extend to the whole appearance/age/sex of the prospective partner, but it's certainly worth a shot.

Fixed it for you.

 

[Scotley]

Couple of hints for you:
-A friend of mine back in High School gave me the best dating advice I've ever heard. "Ask everybody out, even if you have to ask 100 girls out all you got to do is get one to say yes and you have a date". Talk to women and don't be scared to ask and get shot down, what's the worst thing they could say? No. If you never ask anybody out for a date then you will never go out on a date. The more women you talk to and ask the better your chances of getting that one to say yes will be.

The Spammer's approach to dating.

 

[Bagpuss]

The Spammer's approach to dating.

I use to call it the "Uzi technique" myself, "Put enough lead out you're bound to hit something." Tended to use it at the end of an evening, if I was short the cab fair home.

Never failed, and occasionally lead to lasting relationships. It works for a number of reasons, but its important that it isn't used because you are desperate, its works because you really don't care if you get rejected. Women pick up on that sort of carefree confidence, that and you can bet if you ask enough women you will find one that is also lonely, shy and with "too much love", or that other men haven't been brave enough to approach (because they are so good looking).

 

[Desdichado]

*Sigh* Do you have an AIM S/N I can have so I can deal with you properly?

Aaaannnd.... the ignore list gets used again. Dude, you've been nothing but a litany of childish insults in this entire thread. Not only does it distract from the topic and mire the thread down in inanities, but it also brings down the whole "vibe" of the boards. Folks don't come to ENWorld for petty wrangling like that.

To not be off-topic; Frukathka, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Being single and 29 is not exactly uncommon. I do think there's some great advice in this thread, particularly the "don't try so hard" and the "be comfortable with yourself first" variety. Dealing with women (I'm assuming you're looking for a woman -- I don't suppose it'd be any different if not, though) in potentially romantic scenarios is always stressful and difficult, because people aren't used to it, and most of us don't really get much practice. I think the key, though, is to never look like your stressed or nervous. Confident, comfortable and relaxed. If you're not confident, comfortable and relaxed, at least pretend that you are.

I think it'll improve your interactions with the opposite sex (again, assuming) dramatically if you do. Of course, that only gets you so far; you have to actually invite your potential date to go do something. You have to train yourself to not be afraid of rejection, too, so you're not standing there with your hat in your hand and big puppy dog eyes. Relaxed. Confident. Comfortable. Lay your groundwork, and then just ask directly. If she says no, no big deal. Say something polite and move on. If she says yes, continue one small step at a time. Let it come naturally. Don't "go for the big one" right away unless you're really getting a strong vibe that it's OK.

That's how I did it anyway. My wife thought I was probably a bit too slow moving for her taste, but we were both ready for the next step, at least, when we took it. It can work. We just had our 11th anniversary a week or two ago.