Why must a loving soul be so alone...

[Lady_Acoma]

It's too bad we can't make guys like TB see things from OUR perspective. That not all women are whores like he'd like.... That's just wrong. Those kinds of guys should just pay for sex and get it over with as that's all they want out of a "relationship". If I can't be friends with ya, then what good are you? I don't do one night stands.

See now I don't have to deal with guys like that anymore, course there are some girls like that, but I don't tend to go to the places they congregate at to often so I have a shield sorta. However I have a great many guy friends, and those that are like that in general I don't stay friends with for long, or am never really close to at all, just associates mostly. *shrugs* But if that's what he wants and he seems to be getting it I'm not going to try and say he is horribly wrong, and I think it's clear that is not at all my approach and I don't really care for it, so I think that is enough said.

 

[BOZ]

It's too bad we can't make guys like TB see things from OUR perspective. That not all women are whores like he'd like.... That's just wrong. Those kinds of guys should just pay for sex and get it over with as that's all they want out of a "relationship". If I can't be friends with ya, then what good are you? I don't do one night stands.

my wife is my best friend. largely because the rest of my friends don't bother calling or coming over though, but i digress. i actually enjoy talking to her and spending time with her, most of the time. when you live with someone (anyone), it's impossible to enjoy 100% of the time you spend with them.

 

[Desdichado]

It's too bad we can't make guys like TB see things from OUR perspective. That not all women are whores like he'd like.... That's just wrong. Those kinds of guys should just pay for sex and get it over with as that's all they want out of a "relationship". If I can't be friends with ya, then what good are you? I don't do one night stands.

I don't TB says he's looking for whores -- he's talking about getting dates, though, not getting friends. If your design is to get friends, then yeah, Mr. Uber Nice Guy is the way to go. If your intent is to find someone to ask out on a date, then there's a slightly different angle of your personality you want to emphasize. I think you're not so much disagreeing as you are not even talking about the same circumstances at all.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

See now I don't have to deal with guys like that anymore, course there are some girls like that, but I don't tend to go to the places they congregate at to often so I have a shield sorta. However I have a great many guy friends, and those that are like that in general I don't stay friends with for long, or am never really close to at all, just associates mostly. *shrugs* But if that's what he wants and he seems to be getting it I'm not going to try and say he is horribly wrong, and I think it's clear that is not at all my approach and I don't really care for it, so I think that is enough said.

And it's not my approach either. I prefer the "nice guy" who cares more for my feelings than whether or not we get horizontal. That's just my opinion on things and I don't plan to change that.

I didn't know I was really *that* popular with the guys.... I had Torm "hit" on me awhile back but I wasn't comfortable with his lifestyle. So I decided to be friends with him instead. Which is cool, IMO. That was the first time I'd really encountered someone who had a different lifestyle than the "norm" which is what I'm used to/most comfortable with.

I told my friend that I like being around him because "he's nice, caring and fun to be around" and that if he wasn't scared of a relationship right now, I think we might start one... But he's still scared of getting hurt again. And I can certainly understand that... having been hurt too by a once best friend of mine.The only prob with that I'd see, besides the scared bit, is the fact we're 2 hours apart... But a person like that would be more up my alley than some of the other types of guys. Although it may still be "too fast" as I've only known him for just under 3 months... And frankly, I respect him for the fact that he's a gentleman, not pressing things like some might do. Not trying to take advantage of me and I'm not going to take advantage of him either.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

I don't TB says he's looking for whores -- he's talking about getting dates, though, not getting friends. If your design is to get friends, then yeah, Mr. Uber Nice Guy is the way to go. If your intent is to find someone to ask out on a date, then there's a slightly different angle of your personality you want to emphasize. I think you're not so much disagreeing as you are not even talking about the same circumstances at all.

I wouldn't mind finding a date, m'self... I just have my own way of going about it, it seems... I'd like to know the person before I'd be willing to go somewhere ALONE with them... I guess part of the "different circumstances" may be revolving around our differences in gender...

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

I wouldn't mind finding a date, m'self... I just have my own way of going about it, it seems...

Not your own way. I think it's the difference between men and women, in general. I agree with everything you've said. Women - at least all the women I know - want to be friends first, lovers second.

As they say - men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Doubt that men will ever understand the woman's perspective... nor will women ever understand man's.

 

[Aeson]

maybe enworld should start a dating service. with all these lonely hearts it shouldn't be too hard. I'd sign up. A new version of "gamer seeking gamer"

 

[drothgery]

maybe enworld should start a dating service. with all these lonely hearts it shouldn't be too hard.

There's a small problem with the idea. There are plenty of single men around here. Single women, not so much.

 

[Aeson]

There's a small problem with the idea. There are plenty of single men around here. Single women, not so much.

I know good, honest, nice, funny and romantic women are so hard to find. I am so tired of these women that treat me like a piece of meat on a Harley. Jeez I'd like a woman that wants me for my mind and not my money, body oh did I metion the Harley.

 

[Aeson]

I might get fraked for that.