Women venting about men

[Xath]

Also, why can't any male roleplayers have even a slightly realistic romance in a roleplaying game? Most stay away from the subject (mercifully!) and the few that go in those directions tend to.... well... be a little bit.... freaky . Not good freaky. Bad freaky. "You should be registered with a state agency" freaky.

I have a different situation on a related topic. My boyfriend first expressed his interest in me through establishing a relationship between his character and mine. It was interesting to watch how the closer our characters got, the closer he got to asking me out.

However,

Now, it seems that every character he makes has romantic intentions towards my character. It's not particularly annoying, I'd just like to be able to express a bit more diversity in my character. I also don't want us to become "that gaming couple who's characters are always in a relationship." It's a stereotype I've seen go from "cutesy" to "get a room wierd."

I've tried to tell him that I don't think our characters should always be romantically involved. But he's still trying to do it in the majority of our campaigns.

 

[Ashwyn]

Men will still want the Large breasted bimbos.

I've never known any guys like that, and I am not a guy like that. I need someone with a deep personality. How can anybody stand to be around someone without it? Other than alcohol.

I think myself to be very open minded about men, I have many male friends, in all actuality I think more men then women are closer to me, but I do have one gripe.

Why is it that guys seem to think that I am wholly and unalterably wrong in my sexual choices? I'm a lesbian plan and simple, I told you that so you wouldn't hit on me cause it is pointless, not because I want you to try and prove me wrong. Honestly it just pisses me off and makes me think how right I am to not want to sleep with men in the first place although that was not the issue when I made that choice. Granted this is not all men, none of my male friends push me like this, they may joke that they want threesomes with me and some other chic, but they know that isn't happening either, it is just a way for them to air out their fantasies a bit cause they know I don't mind. But with those that do, and there are a lot I don't see why my saying, "I told you no, I never want to sleep with a man." is not good enough and seems to make them sure that they can change all that. It pisses the hell out of me and on anger issues with others I am VERY laid back. Okay end rant.

I never made you think that I feel that way, did I? I hope not.

I've read an interesting theory about why men are better at video games. (and why the women who are super good are that way). But I'll post it in a spoiler because it may not be work friendly.

Spoiler

Apparently, male "self pleasuring" and some female versions of the same increase manual dexterity and speed for many of the muscles associated with controling a video game controller. Especially those games which require repetitive speed button pushing, such as many of the minigames in Mario-Party.

Many of my male friends swear by it.

I will not make a joystick joke. I will not make a joystick joke. I will not make a joystick joke...

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

I will not make a joystick joke. I will not make a joystick joke. I will not make a joystick joke...

The beauty thing is you don't have to.

 

[Aeson]

I have a different situation on a related topic. My boyfriend first expressed his interest in me through establishing a relationship between his character and mine. It was interesting to watch how the closer our characters got, the closer he got to asking me out.

However,

Now, it seems that every character he makes has romantic intentions towards my character. It's not particularly annoying, I'd just like to be able to express a bit more diversity in my character. I also don't want us to become "that gaming couple who's characters are always in a relationship." It's a stereotype I've seen go from "cutesy" to "get a room wierd."

I've tried to tell him that I don't think our characters should always be romantically involved. But he's still trying to do it in the majority of our campaigns.

Play a male that should make him think twice.

 

[Aeson]

I've never known any guys like that, and I am not a guy like that. I need someone with a deep personality. How can anybody stand to be around someone without it? Other than alcohol.

I hear size doesn't matter all the time. I agree. sociaty does not. We are under constant pressure to be more than we are. Men for a long time were pushed to be strong and silent. Hold in your feelings and the such. Women were taught to serve and obey and to be open. Things are changing and the roles are switching. Many are resisting but resistance is futile.

 

[freebfrost]

I've not seen men play female characters... I've had one guy joke about playing one... but he hasn't so far.

Two of my favorite characters were female. Celestine Lightcrown was a 1st edition 18th level magic-user, and Terri Fornorth was a 4th level 2nd edition ranger. Both were a blast to play. It was also nice to turn the tables on the guys in the group - they weren't expecting me to run a woman.

Some people, it seems, just can't handle the truth.... it hit too close to home.

And do you game with Crothian?

Alas, that unfortunately is the truth for many things. A lot of relationship issues could be avoided if people would be honest with themselves first.

And, no, I've never had the pleasure. I only recently have started posting on enWorld, though I've been a member for years, and subsequently only recently talked with Crothian about where we live. Hopefully I'll meet him at some point - either around town or at GenCon.

 

[Turanil]

I've read an interesting theory about why men are better at video games.

Xath, you are baaad.

 

[Turanil]

And do you game with Crothian?

And, no, I've never had the pleasure.

Crothian is really too busy posting to actually do anything else IMO.

 

[Darmanicus]

Well stated. And, now that the internet is here, I think in the distant future, there will be the possibility of people being attracted to personalities rather than gender.

I just hope that the rest of the animal kingdom doesn't discover the internet otherwise this world is gonna turn out to be SERIOUSLY weird.

 

[Timeboxer]

Well stated. And, now that the internet is here, I think in the distant future, there will be the possibility of people being attracted to personalities rather than gender.

"In the distant future"? Keep in mind that a lot of what people call "bisexuality" often really amounts to -- assuming you are serious about it -- "I don't really care what sex you are, I care who you are." A lot of people call this "pansexuality" to be more all-encompassing, but the idea's still there.

Oh, also, for bias-evaluation purposes, I'm a lesbian. (Hi, Lady_Acoma!)