Would your group stop a woman from joining?

[Silver Moon]

We'd ban them, but the DMs wife would get mighty ticked. Wouldn't be prudent, that. She just got Flame Strike.

I agree. My wife has been a key part of our gaming group for 23 years now. I'm glad this poll is going the way it is, I'd hate to have to kick her out of the group now just because of gender.

 

[Andor]

What a strange question. What's stranger is how permutations of it keep cropping up. Is this really an issue after high school?

I was going to say I didn't remember the last time I was in a gaming group that didn't have women, but I finally recalled it. 10 years ago, in the military, playing rifts.

 

[JoeBlank]

I wasn't sure how to vote, since I participate in 3 groups:

1. Already has female members.

2. All male at present, but no reason a female would not be welcome.

3. All male, and we almost certainly would not allow ANY new member, male or female. The unspoken rule in this group is that we are "the old high school gang" getting back together. We have never invited anyone we have not gamed with for 15+ years, and we were all male back then. So we would not exclude anyone on the basis of gender, but for other reasons.

 

[Nightcloak]

And we can be just as crass and stupid as the guys at times....

That is no joke. The women in our group MORE than out distance the guys on the crass'o'meter. And that is saying something. Could make a sailer run away all embarresed that bunch.

 

[Allandaros]

What a strange question. What's stranger is how permutations of it keep cropping up. Is this really an issue after high school?

...it's an issue during high school?

My group was guys-only in middle-school, certainly. But by the time we got to high school, that kinda dissipated.

 

[Ottergame]

As long as the women aren't homophobes, I don't see the problem. We have several women who game with us (3 of the guys in our group - myself included - have wives that game, also), and most of the sexual situations that arise in-game come from the females!

But my point is that if there was a woman who knew the situation she was going into (a group that tends to have lots of gay, possibly furry, in-game relations) and she wasn't bothered by it, I don't see the problem.

I would turn away a woman from a game for the same reasons I would turn away a man (too annoying, too many people, etc.), but not simply because of her gender.

The problem is that it would have made things uncomfortable, and would have utterly changed the feel of the game. Something we didn't want. And we all felt the same way, we would not have allowed a girl to play in that game, period.

 

[Nifft]

We have one girl.
We've rejected one girl (and five guys).

-- N

 

[CaptainCalico]

The problem is that it would have made things uncomfortable, and would have utterly changed the feel of the game. Something we didn't want. And we all felt the same way, we would not have allowed a girl to play in that game, period.

Would you let a straight guy in? From the description the potential for discomfort would be a lot higher with a straight guy that with a girl. :\

 

[Ottergame]

Would you let a straight guy in? From the description the potential for discomfort would be a lot higher with a straight guy that with a girl. :\

Depends, there is a difference to me. It was also something of a guys night out for us, too.

 

[Teflon Billy]

I voted option 1: Yes, for a very specific reason.

That reason being "She's incompatable with the group", and it could apply to anyone, of either gender.

We had a girl playing once who seemd to have it in her head that she was entitled to a level of respect, seriousness and/or politeness that she (A) had in no way that I could see earned, and (B) was not part of our normal "Gaming group Culture".

After the third or fourth instance of her being gravely insulted by some behavior that she couldn't adequately explain or describe to me, I just asked her to go.