Would your group stop a woman from joining?

[Darrin Drader]

I demand the ability to respond to any poll, even if it doesn't concern me!

 

[Turjan]

The best player in my game is the one female player that I have. And no, she is not my girlfriend, she's the wife of one of the other players (and I don't have a crush on her, either ). She's simply a gaming nut, mostly board games, though. The answer to the question may be easily derived from that fact .

 

[frankthedm]

I am very protective of my game. Two weeks ago I had a sticky situation where one member of the group (my husband's oldest friend), took adavantage of the fact that another member (this person's ex-girlfriend) was away to bring his current girlfriend to the game. He claimed that she did not want to join, she just wanted to watch to see "what it was all about".

Thing is, he never asked me. He just called a few hours before the game to inform my husband that he was bringing this person along, so she could sit and watch us play. I tried to get him on his cell phone to talk to him about it, but he claimed he never checked his messages.

So they show up on the doorstep, and I (calmly, firmly, and I think politely) explained that, while she was welcome to hang out with us, maybe watch a movie, we would not be playing if she was there. He ended up driving her back home and then coming back, and we had a good long talk. Hopefully he knows never to try that nonsense with me again.

You handled that as it should be handled. My applause.

We had a girl playing once who seemd to have it in her head that she was entitled to a level of respect, seriousness and/or politeness that she (A) had in no way that I could see earned, and (B) was not part of our normal "Gaming group Culture".

After the third or fourth instance of her being gravely insulted by some behavior that she couldn't adequately explain or describe to me, I just asked her to go.

Good move.


My group has a 60% low life ratio, with myself being one of the worst. I enjoy the game very much as a guys night out[of our minds]. Perhaps not as much as our carpenter/steamventer but i am far more disturbed. Its really for the best it stays a guys night out.

 

[Darrin Drader]

I demand the ability to respond to any poll, even if it doesn't concern me!

I would like to elaborate upon my position by stating that male or female is irrelevant considering that the only way to get into one of my games is if you happen to be a native of Xerumtorox IX, a small moon of a gas giant in orbit around Beetlejuice. If you ain't from there, you are not in my game.

 

[demiurge1138]

I would never reject someone from a game due to gender.

I'd reject them if they were obnoxious, or if our group was already full.

Demiurge out.

 

[Infernal Teddy]

Half my group is female - us guys are lucky we're allowed to play...

 

[Goblyn]

I demand the ability to respond to any poll, even if it doesn't concern me!

Me too!

Anyway, the current group I'm with is made up of two nieces and one nephew of mine. I wouldn't wan't to say 'women' are in the game as my nieces are 12 and it may upset certain siblings of mine.

 

[Majoru Oakheart]

Although I can sort of see why you might not want a woman in your group, I wouldn't reject a woman who wanted to join our group, I'd welcome it. Then again, I've been searching for women who actually role play for a while now, as I don't get along with normal women and am pretty lonely and pathetic. *grin* Since my choices of people to date are pretty much limited to girl gamers and I only know...2 of them or something.

*sigh* I hate to admit the truth, but I'd ask them to join my group in a second purely based on that one fact. Oh, and I could always use more people. Especially women gamers who are likely to have a moderating effect on the hack and slash, powergaming guys in my group.

Please don't hate me because I'm pathetic and lonely...

 

[Mouseferatu]

Especially women gamers who are likely to have a moderating effect on the hack and slash, powergaming guys in my group.

I've seen this sentiment before, and I really wish I knew where it came from. IME, women are no more or less likely to be min-maxers or hack-n-slashers than men.

 

[johnsemlak]

My group tends to be so desparate for players, it just woulnd't make sense not to allow a willing gamer. We've had female gamers but are currently all-male.

I certainly would allow anyone to join a group I was running, as long as they were mature and all that.

That said, I don't have anything against groups that want to be all-male, whether they view their game as a 'boy's night' or whatever. Some guys just feel more comfortable hanging out with other guys. And since the majority of gamers are young men anyway, I don't think it's often that big of deal anyway.