How often do you guys meet up?
If your married with kids has that slowed down Your frequency in meeting up as usual?
Cover's some advice for husbands to prepare the house.
What have you guys encountered?
Any advice on making things as smooth as possible so game time happens?
tl/dr: marriage and/or kids are just like all the other commitments that tend to accumulate as you get older; and the primary way to keep gaming going with competing commitments is to communicate, coordinate, and advocate for your preferences.
I am married. We do not have kids. My wife is not a gamer. She has her own hobbies (and we have shared hobbies as well). I've made clear that gaming is important to my mental health and happiness, and my wife respects that. It takes priority for me, so much as leisure activities do. I make sure I can game by making sure my commitments do not come due during the scheduled game time. This requires me to be very organized, to be very good at coordinating with my wife, and to have a 'do your chores first' mentality, so that come game time, I already have all the things that might come up done.
Honestly speaking (and for myself), I don't feel that the married-ness contributes to the challenges of gaming moreso than simply being more of an adult with adult responsibilities and commitments than I was at the age when I was single. I have a house, a car, retirement accounts, a job (that I certainly don't leave behind when I log off for the day), a TBI, compared to my 20s I have to work-out and cook real meals to stay healthy, and my parents are getting older and need my help. That's what tends to conflict with gaming. Sure, some weekends it is my wife's parents who need help, or the interfering activity is orchestra tickets we have together, but more often then not, no. If I miss gaming, it is because of stuff I would be doing as a middle aged single person as well.
The folks with kids... yeah, you do have to spend a lot of time taking care of their needs, and there's going to be a lot less 'fairness' arguments you can make about it. That's part of the commitment. It's not cut and dried though, and you can say that you need X things that are for you and if gaming is a high enough priority, well then it must take precedence 9 times out of 10. To do that, you need to set expectations, and negotiate for what you want, and you and your spouse need to be willing and able to coordinate and plan ahead. And you may need to agree that if they are responsible for minivan duties on Saturday afternoon, then maybe the Sunday morning that in your 20s you could have slept in with a hangover you are instead up making pancakes and making sure the short people of the house make it to their playdates.