Aurora
First Post
So, you are still seperated then?
Honestly, because I don't know what your wife is thinking/feeling, it would be hard to give you sound advice as to how this will work out in the end. From what you said, it sounds like she loves you and you love her. Things about my spouse drive me nuts, and vice versa. There are times that I feel unhappy, but I know that giving up on my marriage isn't the answer. The grass always looks greener on the other side, and that may be why she feels the need to "see someone else" during your seperation. Just to prove to herself that she has it best with you. There have been times that I have looked at my husband and thought maybe I would be happier with someone else and then I realize that it's just not true. No one will be able to put up wth me the way he does. LOL She may just need proof of the same thing for herself. My only advice I can give, is to continue working on the things that YOU know you need to change to make you a better man/husband/father. The fact that you are dating each other is a great thing. Making time for each other is very important. Let it be something you continue doing even after you have ironed things out and are officially back together. I find it easy to get stuck in the rut of life and routine and not spend enough time with my husband. When that happens our relationship suffers. Good luck.
edit: I do however, think she needs to be honest to all partes involved regarding her relationship with this other man. She needs to tell him the truth. If "dating other people" is permisable in this seperation then she shouldn't feel the need to hide it from you, but she needs to be honest to the guy she is "dating" as well.
Honestly, because I don't know what your wife is thinking/feeling, it would be hard to give you sound advice as to how this will work out in the end. From what you said, it sounds like she loves you and you love her. Things about my spouse drive me nuts, and vice versa. There are times that I feel unhappy, but I know that giving up on my marriage isn't the answer. The grass always looks greener on the other side, and that may be why she feels the need to "see someone else" during your seperation. Just to prove to herself that she has it best with you. There have been times that I have looked at my husband and thought maybe I would be happier with someone else and then I realize that it's just not true. No one will be able to put up wth me the way he does. LOL She may just need proof of the same thing for herself. My only advice I can give, is to continue working on the things that YOU know you need to change to make you a better man/husband/father. The fact that you are dating each other is a great thing. Making time for each other is very important. Let it be something you continue doing even after you have ironed things out and are officially back together. I find it easy to get stuck in the rut of life and routine and not spend enough time with my husband. When that happens our relationship suffers. Good luck.
edit: I do however, think she needs to be honest to all partes involved regarding her relationship with this other man. She needs to tell him the truth. If "dating other people" is permisable in this seperation then she shouldn't feel the need to hide it from you, but she needs to be honest to the guy she is "dating" as well.
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