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Elf Witch said:I do think part of this is happening because of Rich's real life issues. He has a lot of pressure in his real life. He hates his job and was looking for another one when his wife was diagnosed with glaucoma, she is going blind. Now because he has fantastic insurance he does not feel he can leave his job.
His dad has senile dementia and all that is being dumped on him. His mom is totally helpless she does not know how to drive. So now he has to drive her shopping to the doctors plus drive his wife to work and on all her errands amd drive his dad around.
I think it is because of feeling stressed out having to drive everywhere for three people it has become an issue in the game. We all knew when we started the game that the only way for Chris to play was to play at his house. It was a non issue.
I noticed the timing of the issue became one when he started having to drive his family everywhere.
I am sympathetic to what he is going through.He is a passanger in the car to the game he is never asked to drive to give him a break. I think he is feeling stressed and maybe resentful over the pressures from his family but feels that he can't really complain so he has made the drive to the game the place to take out his frustrations.
I disagree, Elf Witch. There is no game issue here.
He's going through a crap time in his life. He's got enormous family and job pressures.
Your campaign is his escape valve right now, whether he knows it or not. Emotionally, the game issue IS NOT trivial to him right now. He needs something to be just for him.
You need to cut him some slack and let him feel powerful in game, 'cause he's facing mortality and human frailty in real life.
So, what you need to do is get the party to get their hands on a wand of monster summoning and a crystal echo blade, both of which will allow his character to have more parity in combat. (The latter gives bards using the sword +1/2 level to damage while using bardic music.)
Then you need to make the next adventure about his character.
You're extraordinarily lucky: you can help lighten your friend's burden at the time when he most needs it. Success is what he needs right now.