Yeah it doesn't help when I hear women rappers on the radio rapping about "bling bling" and "get your hands on his cash" and all that. Pfft. Those women definitely give men the wrong idea.
Sadly, one thing I've learned about men from past relationships is to never live together until marriage. I was left financially destitute by a man who decided on the entire spur of the moment that he wasn't happy in the relationship. Of course, when another woman that you just met is saying "hey, dump her and go out with me," then men seem to evaluate their relationship anew, whereas if there isn't another woman there to tempt them, they don't consider leaving.
Of course, now I would never let myself be left financially destitute by a man, because no matter what I'd always make sure I had 3 months of living expenses in the bank. But at the time, I trusted him when he said he would honor our lease, even if we broke up (he didn't) and would help me find a new place if we did break up (he didn't do that either). But I will never ever live with a man again without the financial security of a ring on my finger. And I would never recommend to another woman to move in with a man without being married, because, in my own past experience, men find it much easier to throw away a relationship if there's no marriage involved.
I realize that men internalize feelings, and if a relationship breaks up, it's probably because the man's been thinking he's unhappy for a while but didn't want to speak up until he had another place (or another woman) to go to. But to us women, many times when the relationship sours, it's out of the blue, and we have no idea what we did wrong.
It's a vicious cycle. Frequently, women get baggage and emotional issues because men they were previously with dump them for no reason that they can see. Then in their next relationship, the women become clingy and desperately want to keep ahold of their man, which drives him away even quicker. It's just a vast difference between men and women.