So... My Group Just Broke...

[El Mahdi]

I'm just confused about one thing. Since when is "21" considered mature? I didn't even think 21 was mature when I was 21.

 

[Herremann the Wise]

Hello Madmaxim,

I'm very sorry to hear about your group's dilemma. Like in business though, the first loss is the best loss. Best to make a clean split (bummer for the boyfriend) and continue on rather than letting the affair drag on and on. It's a shame when personal relationships and bitchiness get in the way of some good gaming and fun... if you know what I mean.

...had a tendency to act really immaturely even though she's 21.

I had to chuckle at this by the way, it made me feel old. I suppose the older you get, the more you realise that there's not much of a correlation between age and acting "maturely".

Best Regards
Herremann the Wise

 

[Vyvyan Basterd]

DRAMA!

Seriously though. Stay out of the drama. It causes nothing but pain.

 

[That One Guy]

G'luck on finding fresh blood for the game!

I've always thought that it was up to the dm/storyteller to invite new people - or to allow others to invite new people.

(Danny has the worst luck ever. )

 

[Charwoman Gene]

I say good riddance.
Along with wimps who wont ask for the day off, Couples are a bane to a gameing group.

This is why gamers can never have nice things.

Pluis you can't spell.

 

[Fifth Element]

I say good riddance.
Along with wimps who wont ask for the day off, Couples are a bane to a gameing group.

Huh. I guess I should tell my wife I can't game with her anymore. We thought both groups we're in have fun and enjoy both of us being there. Guess we were wrong.

 

[rkwoodard]

I feel for you

Hi,

Yep, social interaction/real life can be a real pain in the nether regions. I am down to gaming a bit via email and 1 face to face every few months (4-6 months)......

All because my group became friends outside of gaming.

What begin as 5 players in high school in the mid-80s, has turned into 3 of us still being local and 1 new guy who has only been part of the group for about 10 years, plus my wife.

However, we have all become friends as we all got married and started having kids. We started hanging out socially and in general enjoyed ourselves. Then, in the winter of 06, the wives of the other 2 long-term players decided that monthly social get-togethers at rotating houses would be fun. And it was for about 6 months. Then I realized, hey we are not gaming.

I proposed that we my wife and I (she games remember..the only wife to do so) would host D&D get togethers on our months. That is fair, right? playing D&D every 3 months? Nope, hurt feelings.

I have tried everything, but the other wives hate our gaming. My wife even arranged a D&D get together for my 41st birthday to break in 4th edition. AND THEY GOT THEIR FEELINGS HURT.

Sorry for my ramble. I really am. But I write all this too say, that real life drama can really stink.

RK

 

[That One Guy]

I have tried everything, but the other wives hate our gaming. My wife even arranged a D&D get together for my 41st birthday to break in 4th edition. AND THEY GOT THEIR FEELINGS HURT.

That's awful.


...happy belated birthday? If you're ever in Atlanta, I'll throw you a 4e game.

 

[CleverNickName]

I just feel like getting this of my chest, because it's both a sort of relief and a pain in the butt at the same time.
(snip)
So, has anyone had similar experiences with fellow players?

Wow man, I'm sorry for what happened to your gaming group. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong; to me it just sounds like normal growing pains. The fact of the matter is, people change as time goes by.

I agree with Lord Zardoz...just shrug your shoulders and go on gaming without them. But stay in touch: even if they aren't gaming with you, they can still be your friends. And you can never have too many friends. I have friends that I game with, friends that I go karaoking with, friends I make beer with, friends that I see movies with, and friends that I go to concerts with. I am sure that there are other things you could do together.

I say good riddance.
Along with wimps who wont ask for the day off, Couples are a bane to a gameing group.

Hey now...my wife and I have been gaming happily together for nearly a decade, and two of our players got married five years ago. I think gaming is healthy for couples. It warms my heart every time I hear something like "Honey, can I borrow your vorpal greataxe? Mine's still in the shop."

Also, not all of us can just take a day off whenever we want to. I have to carefully schedule my days off almost a month in advance, for example. And I really can't complain. One of our players is a trauma surgeon...you can imagine how easy it is for her to get a night off.

But I concede your point. More often than not, romance at the game table ends badly...and scheduling conflicts make it hard on everyone to get together for a game.

You've been to some fancy weddings I guess?

My wedding is coming up on Sunday. At 24 dollars a person (just for food) out of my pocket... Ain't no street people welcome!

Holy crap, that's awesome! Congratulations, fellow gamer...here's an XP for the happy couple! (plink!)

 

[rkwoodard]

cheers

You've been to some fancy weddings I guess?

My wedding is coming up on Sunday. At 24 dollars a person (just for food) out of my pocket... Ain't no street people welcome!

Cheers, I shall lift a glass of fine Irish Whiskey to you on sunday for health and happiness.

RK