roguerouge
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SteveC: I strongly recommend that you DM her in a single player campaign. My SO loves it. It's like I'm telling a story just for her. It's quality time and gaming time.
Gaming and Your Significant Other
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Liquid Awesome
Don't forget to include some LARPing too.
JediSoth
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My wife wasn't wasn't really a gamer. There were several boardgames she enjoyed playing with my and my family (Life, Killer Bunnies, and Carcasonne were the big three), but mostly, she wasn't a gamer.
She supported my gaming habits, though. While she would occasionally caution me about buying another book I didn't really need, she never complained (well, except that I seemed to put more money towards the game than ANY of my players) and was very supportive about me having bi-weekly games. She would even go out and do the food run for us and would often bake cookies or brownies for us to have.
I did allow her to have final say about who was in the gaming group, though, because we held the games in our home.
She even would buy me gaming paraphernalia on occasion.
Some of you may know how this story ends (especially if you're involved with the ENnies), but for many of you, this will be news. I don't really post here much, but I haven't even visited ENWorld in the past couple of months because of this (until today). I'm not fishing for sympathy, these are just the facts:
Sadly, she passed away this past Veteran's Day and I've been having a hard time getting back into the game. She was a great supporter of everything I did and gaming just doesn't seem to have the same joy as it did when I had someone to show an interest in my enjoyment of the game (even if she didn't participate or really know anything about the game).
I mean, you gotta love someone who doesn't bat an eye when you tell her you just bought a $120 book from Monte Cook.
I don't want to de-rail the thread, but I think it's important, if you have a significant other, that they at least support your gaming habits. It's no fun to have them constantly at odds with it; it does take up a significant amount of time, after all. Especially if you're the DM.
She supported my gaming habits, though. While she would occasionally caution me about buying another book I didn't really need, she never complained (well, except that I seemed to put more money towards the game than ANY of my players) and was very supportive about me having bi-weekly games. She would even go out and do the food run for us and would often bake cookies or brownies for us to have.
I did allow her to have final say about who was in the gaming group, though, because we held the games in our home.
She even would buy me gaming paraphernalia on occasion.
Some of you may know how this story ends (especially if you're involved with the ENnies), but for many of you, this will be news. I don't really post here much, but I haven't even visited ENWorld in the past couple of months because of this (until today). I'm not fishing for sympathy, these are just the facts:
Sadly, she passed away this past Veteran's Day and I've been having a hard time getting back into the game. She was a great supporter of everything I did and gaming just doesn't seem to have the same joy as it did when I had someone to show an interest in my enjoyment of the game (even if she didn't participate or really know anything about the game).
I mean, you gotta love someone who doesn't bat an eye when you tell her you just bought a $120 book from Monte Cook.
I don't want to de-rail the thread, but I think it's important, if you have a significant other, that they at least support your gaming habits. It's no fun to have them constantly at odds with it; it does take up a significant amount of time, after all. Especially if you're the DM.
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Liquid Awesome
I had no idea, JediSoth. I'm so sorry. My deepest sympathies for your loss.
CharlesRyan
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I'm terribly sorry, JediSoth. You are in my thoughts.
I'm A Banana
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JediSoth said:
I was starting to think I was the only one who didn't really date gamers. I've dated a few who were, but mostly, they haven't been. Some have been supportive, others...well, I'm not married to 'em yet.
You were lucky to have someone who was so supportive. I'm glad you got to spend some good times with her, and I'm sorry for the loss.
SteveC
Doing the best imitation of myself
To be sure. I just need to find the right system to do it with (all jokes aside, mind you
).I don't expect she will ever become a full fledged gamer, but she has expressed enough interest that I'm sure she "gets" what I like.
And it's not like we don't already enjoy the LARPing...but that is probably TMI, right?
--Steve
crazy_monkey1956
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Way back in 1996...
Monkey's Air Force gaming group was about to introduce a new player, but we hadn't met her yet.
Monkey goes out to dinner with some friends and another mutual friend shows up a bit later with a new gal.
Monkey and new gal soon start making puppy dog eyes at eachother.
Monkey thinks: Wow, pretty girl.
Monkey finally notices new gal is looking at him the same way: Pretty girl who likes me?
Monkey finds out that new gal is also the new player coming to the gaming group in a few days: Pretty gamer girl that likes me?
That was January 11 of 1996. We got married on February 22 of 1996. Four kids and much game later we are still happily married.
Monkey's Air Force gaming group was about to introduce a new player, but we hadn't met her yet.
Monkey goes out to dinner with some friends and another mutual friend shows up a bit later with a new gal.
Monkey and new gal soon start making puppy dog eyes at eachother.
Monkey thinks: Wow, pretty girl.
Monkey finally notices new gal is looking at him the same way: Pretty girl who likes me?
Monkey finds out that new gal is also the new player coming to the gaming group in a few days: Pretty gamer girl that likes me?
That was January 11 of 1996. We got married on February 22 of 1996. Four kids and much game later we are still happily married.
SteveC
Doing the best imitation of myself
A couple of things: first, I agree totally with what you wrote here. Your SO doesn't need to game with you, but they at least need to be supportive of the fact that you do game. You can replace "game" with any other part of your life that's extremely important to you.
The other part: I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about what happened to you. As someone who reads ENWorld more than he posts, I still like to think of it as a family. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, and I know I won't be the only one.
--Steve
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