Gaming and Your Significant Other

[CharlesRyan]

My wife is a gamer; we first met playtesting Deadlands for Pinnacle.

She plays in my current campaign, and we play together and separately in other campaigns.

 

[Ktulu]

My wife had no idea what D&D was when we started dating. She saw the books on my shelf and asked what I did on those thursdays that I wasn't available.

We've been married almost two years and while she's still not a gamer, she does make snacks for our game and loves to paint miniatures.

 

[Nellisir]

My wife has absolutely no interest in gaming. She loves fantasy novels and movies, but rpgs aren't her thing. It doesn't bother her that I play, though she prefers it not be in her house, or at least not when she's home.

It was actually something we talked about when we got serious about dating - she had her hobbies (volleyball, gym, canine agility) and I had mine, and we both agreed to respect each others'.

 

[Obryn]

My wife is not a gamer, and it's probably a good thing for our marriage.

I play board & card games with her, but she is very, very competitive. She doesn't just want to win; she wants to completely destroy her opponents and dance on their graves. With me as the DM, I have a feeling that I'd be sleeping on the couch if anything bad happened to her character!

-O

 

[El Mahdi]

My wife is not a gamer, and it's probably a good thing for our marriage.

I play board & card games with her, but she is very, very competitive. She doesn't just want to win; she wants to completely destroy her opponents and dance on their graves. With me as the DM, I have a feeling that I'd be sleeping on the couch if anything bad happened to her character!

-O

Sounds like she'd make a good DM.

 

[Silver Moon]

We're both gamers. We were gaming together prior to even dating each other. We dated for seven years, and have been married for another nineteen years on top of that. She's also a very creative DM.

 

[EricNoah]

Mrs. Noah is supremely supportive of my hobby, but does not herself participate.

 

[SteveC]

I have been fortunate enough to date a couple of women who game, and the experience was amazing. There were problems in each of the relationships, though, so they ended.

After my last serious relationship ended I decided to really learn how to date, and did all of the online dating things, and dated a lot of people. I didn't mention gaming on the first date, but in the first three dates I brought it up. I was saddened at how frequently this became a deal breaker for people (even moreso than my politics, but that's a story for another site).

What I did during this process was figure out how to date, grow up and get some confidence about me and what was important to me. In retrospect, the problems with those women weren't that I was a gamer, it was that I was an unsure, underconfident gamer.

Once I figured that out, things went much better. My current girlfriend doesn't play RPGs with me, but she'll play boardgames, and has said she at least wants to try it out once or twice to see what it's all about. In effect I went from being a gamer to a man who games, and it's made all the difference. I doubt I'll end up converting her, but then she won't get me out there on a snowboard either, and both of us are okay with that.

--Steve

 

[joethelawyer]

Quote:
Originally Posted by cperkins
My wife used to game, when we first started dating. That ended after a few months.

That happens with other stuff too.

ROFL

 

[rgard]

Quote:
Originally Posted by cperkins
My wife used to game, when we first started dating. That ended after a few months.






ROFL

Thanks, Joe. I'm thinking that if we made a scientific study of this, we'd find the number of hours the wife games (among other activities) is inversely proportional to the number of years married.