Nobody has convinced me that the "problem" is the rules set. The problem is deliberate misuse of the rules set, apparently combined with permissiveness from the other players and GM.
That's fine, I'm not trying to convince
you. I've already stated that beyond continuing to do what makes you happy as a gamer, I don't care what you do.
So for you, the problem isn't with the rules. For others it is. It's a pretty subjective thing.
You can be a douchebag player as a wizard. You can be a douchebag player as a fighter.
Yep. Sure can.
The solution isn't to change the wizard, if the problem is that a player is a douchebag.
It sure as hell isn't the solution to change the entire game for everybody because that guy games with a douchebag.
That solution didn't work for
you, but there are lots of folks that it did work for, and a fair number more that, even though they didn't necessarily have a problem, found that they quite liked a different approach to balance.
That doesn't make them wrong. That doesn't mean those changes were necessarily a bad idea. That makes them different, and makes those ideas interesting to perhaps a different crowd. That crowd doesn't include you, apparently.
Fortunately, you have found a solution that works for you. Others will keep looking, or move on, or whatever.
Yeah, stop playing with douchebags. Great if you can, sucks if you can't. Gaming companies can't stop players from being douchebags. They have no control over that, but they do have control over rules and systems, so that's the only angle they can approach the problem from.
So that's what they did. Some liked it, some didn't. That's life, and that's business.
Yes, it sucks that some people have no choice but to game with douchebags, if they want to game at all. It does. I sympathize. But changing the rules will not change the douchebag. To paraphrase Ian Malcolm, "Douchebags find a way."
No it won't, but if there are less chances for douchebaggery, it follows that people forced to play alongside douchebags will have a better time of it.
It also follows that douchebags, when faced with less opportunity for douchebaggery, will choose to stick with what gave them the more opportunity to do what they liked. A lot of the douchey 3.x players I knew didn't move on for precisely that reason.
Beyond that, live and let live; game and let game. Not everyone wants to play the same game. There's nothing wrong with that, and fortunately there are many games to choose from to suit whatever your fancy.