The hole, at least in this one small corner of the discussion, is that in human communication, "technically correct" doesn't always equate to "right".
Ah, my Achilles' heel. Well, two, actually. I am so used to being right, and, as a writer, so used to words making me so.
You keep pointing to a technical definition, and say by your definition, you're right, so you're right. But, if you step up to someone and call them a cheater or a liar, what comes into mind isn't *your* technical definition, but the common one, with a rather different set of connotations. The hole is that you don't get to set the definitions that get used.
I do understand your point, but in a written medium, I find using definitions help clear up thoughts in a discussion. When I say "breaking the rules is cheating" and I get back "that's an overstatement", my first reaction is to say, "no, it's not." And, it's not. But, in terms of productive discussion, if I think in terms of literal definition, and you advocate your case from a more casual, colloquial view, I think we're probably talking past one another on the original point I was trying to make.
I understand what you're saying here. I really do. I do, however, think it depends on where you're from, and how the word is used locally. I can't speak for the internet at large, but as I've said, my phrasing is not uncommon in my circles. I might very well be different from yours, or the country as a whole.
On top of that, whether you intend it that way or not, what you're doing is a commonly used form of passive-aggressive rhetorical judo. A word is known to have emotional connotations. The speaker swaps around technical definitions, so that while the word technically still applies, the emotional connotations don't, but the word continues to carry them regardless.
Well, I don't intend to strip it of emotional connotations. Some people consider fudging to be a form cheating, with all the emotional connotations that implies, even if the fudging is there to help them. If I'm playing the game of Life with my young cousins, and I give each person one million dollars instead of them losing $80,000, one of my cousins would object. She has before to people playing to help her (when she can spot it). She's only five, but she's pretty sharp.
Does she get upset? Well, she gets disappointed, but she'll accept it (she's good at following what an adult says to do). However, my players do indeed have an emotional reaction if they find out I save them or help them (or hurt them for that matter) through fudging. I definitely did not hope to strip out the emotional connotations with my use; indeed, they're pretty vital to what I'm trying to convey.
I do get where you're coming from, Umbran. And I'm not saying that my experience is near universal, when it comes to player views, personal views, or colloquial usage of definitions. What I do intend to do, however, is show that some players view fudging as "cheating", and that saying so isn't an overstatement at all. It has just as much emotional charge as the "normal" usage of "cheating". As always, play what you like
