Celebrim
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How?
Because you continue to sterotype and project yourself on to every situation.
Again and again on message boards and in media I hear of women gamers talked down to for expressing disagreement with chainmail bikinis
Ok, I'm not going to talk down to you for expressing disagreement with chainmail bikinis. I don't like chainmail bikinis. No character in my game would ever wear one. Heck, I removed 'chain shirt' and 'breastplate' from my 3.X inspired armor list as unrealistic given the assumptions of 3.X (no hit locations). And I also happen to find the general portrayal of women in fantasy media demeaning. BUT.... that's just my personal feelings. I can't claim to represent anyone. In fact, there are many women that find the overt sexuality of fantasy heroines empowering, as a source of sexual and physical confidence for providing an alternative standard of sexual attractiveness for them to adhere to that they can more easily obtain than the typical cheerleader or supermodel standard. There are gamer grrls that envision their fantasy heroines dressed in overtly sexual ways. Not every women is going to think that Red Sonya is demeaning. And if you are as conversant in feminist literature as you seem to be, you should know that it is a major controversy even within feminism as to whether embracing ones sexuality (or even promiscuity) and displaying oneself as a sexual object is empowering or demeaning.
Have you ever LARPed with women? In my experience, the sexual excitement and possibilities of LARPing are a bigger attraction on the whole to female gamers than male gamers. And I can remember going into a book store in the 90's and there were these two goth girls sitting on the floor with 'L.A. by Night' for VtM open in their laps and talking, and the are discussing the characters in the book, and one of them says something like, "Isn't he so dreamy? Every time I'm an elevator now I fantasize that he's resting on the elevator above me."
So no, whether you are a woman or not (and I'm still not certain, because your profile says male), you don't get to speak for women. You aren't their appointed champion. You don't get to go around like a knight in shining armor defending them from the assaults of predatory males. Because there isn't one single way of looking at any of this, and not even among women, and you know - maybe they don't necessarily need your protection.
saw lackadaisical attitude towards sexual assault which can trigger flashbacks in sufferers (of which there are many)
Isn't this an individual group issue though? I mean, even if sexual assault were to occur in my game, I would never be graphic about such a sensitive subject - not just because I'm worried that someone in the group has been sexual assaulted - but because dwelling on graphic anything can be prurient and voyeuristic and unhealthy. But I don't get to tell another group where to draw that line, because there is a point where I think dealing with mature issues is something important for a game to do and one of those very important issues is the very real problem of evil. And sometimes evil has to be portrayed, and how to do that correctly isn't a clear cut thing. And I'm not going to banish that from my game, because that itself would tend to make the fantasy exercise unhealthy. I disagree with claims that we aren't desensitized to murder. There are so many assumptions being made in this larger argument that I just think are flat out wrong.
and cosplayers repeatedly sexually harassed and groped at gaming conventions.
Nothing justifies that. I'm not ever going to try to excuse that. But this isn't a simple subject. I had friend go to DragonCon, and a cosplay vampire (a girl) had made one of those real denture pieces that features very real and sharp fangs, come over to him sexually grope him and then sink her very real fangs into his neck: a complete stranger completely without provocation. And she drew blood; a he did hit her, because well, assault and battery. I mean, I don't know how readily you're going to accept this claim, but there is a lot of sexuality assumed around the cosplay culture and some women - certainly not all of them - are very much attracted to it by its sexuality and very much desire to be the center of attention because of it. Some of that attention goes way beyond what they want, I'm sure, and again there is no excuse for that. But when you get into these complicated whose flirting with who situations, sometimes the boundaries between what is sexual harassment and what is welcome flirtation get really blurred. Now, I don't think that even needs to be part of a discussion of rape, but if you are going to start blurring the lines between 'rape bad' and 'this guy with pimples at dragon con was hitting on me badly', there we are. You went there already.
If I were being Puritannical I'd be advocating for no mention of sex, period, and shaming the women for "tempting" men.
It sure kinda sounds that way from here.
- emphasis addedBut it's not about individual home games. If you feel that you and your group can handle sexual assault without problems, I'm not stopping you. But given the huge amount of people who suffer from it and can't handle its portrayal in fiction without getting triggered, gamers included, I say that it's best to err on the side of caution and to not use it unless you're REALLY, REALLY SURE that nobody at your table will be affected.
Make up your mind. Is it about home games or not? Or is it about your desire to dictate to the gaming community what they should or should not publish based on your standards of what is moral or not?
Okay, if my links do not help my argument and are counter to what I said, then I'll concede the mistake. But first I need to specifically know their factual fallacies, what they are and where.
Would you like to go through them one at a time? Let's start with the Scythians. The actual essay you link to says: "There is ambiguous evidence as to the role of women among the Scythians." There is very little hard evidence for Scythian women warriors beyond the usual role of aristocratic women leading men into battle in their spouses place, or of defending their homes, lives, and children in the last extremity - the real truth of 'women have always fought'. To the extent that the evidence paints a picture of female warriors, we are talking a small minority, in one culture, during one period, using the horsebow - the one weapon of the ancient world that might equalize the genders somewhat in the way that say a rifle does - and that culture ultimately went extinct, conquered and assimilated by a culture without a female warrior tradition. Not exactly evidence of equality of the sexes if you are basing equality of the sexes or any other person on what they are capable of (because if it was that, then mentally retarded people would be subhuman), and certainly not definitive evidence that female warriors are realistic much less commonplace.
And that's your strongest link. You link repeatedly to the 'Women as Warriors Homepage', which is just filled with crap and garbage. Would you like me to explain?
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